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AIBU to be really annoyed by this?

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shazz100 · 25/10/2018 19:10

Went to Marwell Zoo today with my teenage son, who has had a really hard time recently. We were having a really fun day lots of laughing and joking. Walked into the tropical house and his glasses steamed up instantly, which made me laugh quite loudly- and I was shushed very loudly by a grandmother who was near the entrance with her family. At first I was a bit shocked by this, but then very quickly became really annoyed about it. Several times we passed her in the tropical house and I said very loudly to my son ooh don't talk too loudly or laugh you may get shushed. I had to bite my tongue not to say anything more rude.AIBU to get so annoyed by this and seething inside? Don't know if it's my age lol (45) but lately people just seem to annoy me more and more

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ATowelAndAPotato · 25/10/2018 21:42

It’s definitely your age. My mum started acting like this at about your age. It was horrendously embarrassing for us as kids.
To be honest, at 65 she still does it, and it’s just getting worse. I’m hoping she’ll grow out of it soon. My Nan was the same but seemed to settle down again when she hit 70. It’s like some kind of childhood regression!

Scuzzlet · 25/10/2018 21:44

Yes I would be annoyed at another adult shushing me too to be honest, don’t know who some people think they are :S

PunkrockerGirl59 · 25/10/2018 22:57

don't know who some people think they are :S sic
Yes shame on all those pesky people who know how to behave around animals. Loud, sudden noises will startle and distress any animal, let alone those in captivity. If OP is that hard of understanding, then maybe she should reconsider her choice of family outing Hmm

AnneLovesGilbert · 25/10/2018 23:02

Steamed up glasses? LOL!!!!!! Passive aggressive comments to a stranger who was there to try and enjoy the experience?

Mega LOLLLZZZ Hmm

PodgeBod · 25/10/2018 23:04

You're not a terrible person (presumably) but you have to know when to let things go. It sounds like this experience spoiled your enjoyment of the rest of the Tropical House and you are still dwelling on it at home. Best to say something at the time, if necessary, or put it out of your mind.

WhatToDoAboutWailmerGoneRogue · 25/10/2018 23:14

Several times we passed her in the tropical house and I said very loudly to my son ooh don't talk too loudly or laugh you may get shushed.

Wow. That was exceptionally rude of you, OP. If you were loud near animals the lady was right to shush you.

You’ve set a very poor example for your son today. I really hope it’s a one off and not the kind of parenting he’s receiving on a regular basis.

PurpleFlower1983 · 25/10/2018 23:20

Very childish on your part. Grow up a bit.

AGHHHH · 25/10/2018 23:25

...And here you will find a traditional Mumsnet pile on.

Namechangeforthiscancershit · 25/10/2018 23:26

Look at his little face though! YABVVVU. You are in his home not the other way around.

AIBU to be really annoyed by this?
Namechangeforthiscancershit · 25/10/2018 23:27

Best to say something at the time, if necessary, or put it out of your mind

What would she say though? “No actually I want to distress the little sloth with my loud laughter so do one you old bat?”

Namechangeforthiscancershit · 25/10/2018 23:28

Posted too soon. But I feel like that would not help matters...

MadameButterface · 25/10/2018 23:31

How extraordinary

ProudThrilledHappy · 25/10/2018 23:37

...And here you will find a traditional Mumsnet pile on

Totally off topic but I read this in a David Attenborough voice

ladymariner · 25/10/2018 23:39

Can't really believe this is real but just in case it is....op, you were totally in the wrong, behaved incredibly badly and overall you're coming across as an utter twat. HTH

ladymariner · 25/10/2018 23:40

Ha, so did I proud Grin

DC2018 · 25/10/2018 23:45

Seems a bit over the top and petty of you. It's common sense not to be too loud when near will animals.

HarrietKettleWasHere · 25/10/2018 23:46

I LOVE LOVE LOVE the sloth in London zoo, he also roams freely around the tropical bit. Just climbs about, doing his thing, he’ll pass centimetres from your head if you’re lucky.

Last time he did that as some BELLENDS were trying to stroke/take selfies with him AngryAngry

Used to be a keeper in there at all times to prevent this kind of thing but the whole place feels like there’s less staff there now Confused

The reptile house is bordering on cruelty too, it’s like something from the soviet era.

m0therofdragons · 25/10/2018 23:54

How embarrassing for your son. My dd would have disowned me. Just because someone is rude doesn't mean you have to be a dick (however tempting)

Lalliella · 26/10/2018 00:15

Of course your performance parenting is far more important than the wellbeing of the animals. Have your son’s toes stopped curling yet?

Brandnewshit · 26/10/2018 00:18

Sharon?

NarcolepticOuchMouse · 26/10/2018 00:28

I had no feelings on this until someone mentioned you have to be quiet for the sloth, in which case you deserved to be shushed. Consideration is something you should be teaching your son.

JellieEllie · 26/10/2018 00:34

I feel sad that you felt it was ok to speak to an elderly woman in this way.
If I had heard anyone making digs at my grandmother so loudly and openly and passive aggressively like you did then I would be digging you straight back, in the face with my fist.

Darkautumn · 26/10/2018 00:38

YABU and immature.

longwayoff · 26/10/2018 07:59

So glad we went to Marwell last week not yesterday. Giant Anteater! How can it be that size on a diet of ants?

Bluntness100 · 26/10/2018 08:26

It’s definitely your age

It's really not. I'm 49 and have never done this nor would I. It's sod all to do with her age.

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