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To think WTF at dentist’s receptionist.

71 replies

RedSkyLastNight · 25/10/2018 16:12

Just picked up a message on my phone.
It from the dentist’s receptionist.
To tell me that they rescheduled my husband’s appointment next week.

AIBU to think WTF? My husband is a fully functioning adult, with his own mobile phone, whose number the dentist’s surgery has, why on earth would the receptionist think it was appropriate to ring his wife to pass on this message?
(isn’t it a breach of privacy if nothing else – I mean I knew he had a dentist appointment next week anyway, but what if there was some reason he didn’t want me to know?)

OP posts:
GreatDuckCookery6211 · 25/10/2018 16:14

I've no idea but it's not something I could give a second thought about tbh. Maybe she tried your DH's and it didn't send?

MarthaArthur · 25/10/2018 16:14

It was probably an accident they got your numbers mixed up. Happens to me all the time i am always sent reminders of my dbros apoointments.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 25/10/2018 16:14

Phone them back and suggest she contacts your husband as 'you don't have time to act as his secretary'.

Coconutspongexo · 25/10/2018 16:16

YABU I feel like this is a huge overreaction

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RedSkyLastNight · 25/10/2018 16:16

It was an ansaphone message, she said my name and then said it was about DH's appointment - so clearly she knew it was me, and no number mix up.

Just passed the message on to DH and he said that they'd asked him to confirm all his contact details when he was in last week!

OP posts:
MarthaArthur · 25/10/2018 16:16

A dental appointments also not really a privacy issue.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 25/10/2018 16:17

I highly doubt she left a message because she thinks he's your private secretary, probably something like she tried his number and it didn't connect or she could leave a voicemail or the text wouldn't send.

Not worth starting a thread about surely?

Hobbes8 · 25/10/2018 16:18

I had to stop using our local garage because I was so aggrieved every time they called my husband to tell him MY car was ready for collection.

Still, at least us little ladies get to handle the teeth admin. Hmm

Seniorcitizen1 · 25/10/2018 16:19

You are very lucky if this is all that you have to get het up about in your life

YellowStickies · 25/10/2018 16:20

It is of course a privacy issue, and you are correct on all other counts OP! I'd be annoyed at this too.

Coconutspongexo · 25/10/2018 16:21

Not sure how it’s a privacy issue - they’re allowed to leave voicemails on house phones which are shared.

YellowStickies · 25/10/2018 16:22

Just because this one annoying thing happened, that OP wishes to complain about on Mumsnet, does not mean she has nothing else to worry about nor does it mean she will be protesting outside the dentist. All the eye rolls at the typical responses.

florafawna · 25/10/2018 16:23

"Rescheduled appointment" code for affair? Hmm

Annajohnsdottir · 25/10/2018 16:24

You're overreacting and YABU. This is not a big deal. Just politely mention it next time you're there, that you got a message relating to your husband and that they should contact him in future. No need to create drama for the sake of it Hmm

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 25/10/2018 16:25

Rescheduled appointment" code for affair?
What?!

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RedSkyLastNight · 25/10/2018 16:25

I'm not sure how saying "WTF" on a forum that's known for its plain speaking is an overreaction? I'm not remotely het up - just extremely bemused.

I think in 2018, a receptionist, in possession of 3 contact numbers (home, mobile and work) for a man ... CHOOSING to ring his wife instead is worthy of some note.

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Coconutspongexo · 25/10/2018 16:27

She probably tried all three numbers. I doubt she thought you’re his messenger ffs

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 25/10/2018 16:27

If they asked him to confirm his contact details only last week it doesn't make sense for them to be ringing the OP, more likely that they took the wrong number down and they can't get through to him.

MarthaArthur · 25/10/2018 16:29

I dont think its a feminist issue at all. When i have messed up an appointment or not contacted them they phone my mother and ask her to tell me and i am a woman. Its about them trying the best tactics not to have their appointments missed as it costs them so much money when waiting lists for dentists can be insane.

Jlynhope · 25/10/2018 16:32

Maybe she called all three. I don't see this as an issue at all.

Knittedfairies · 25/10/2018 16:35

At my last appointment I was asked if I wanted to sign a form giving my permission for my husband to make, cancel or postpone appointments on my behalf. The receptionist said it was because of the GPDRs; if I didn’t sign they wouldn’t be able to speak to him about my appointments, nor me about his if he didn’t sign.

paintinmyhairAgain · 25/10/2018 16:37

ffs you couldn't make this shit up - or maybe you could Confused

dfwr · 25/10/2018 16:38

House phone or mobile?

Belina · 25/10/2018 16:42

op you are so dramatic

BruegelTheElder · 25/10/2018 16:42

Yeah I just don't believe a receptionist would call your number unless she had good reason.

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