For context, I work 2 days a week. 11 hours, college 2 days a week, do all school runs and majority of childcare. Sometimes do an extra shift Sunday's.
We split child clubs Saturday's.
He works 5 days a week 7 till half 2.
Every month I do an extra morning at college on a weds, the other weds I have a toddler and do the cleaning. He helps (seldom) when home. I do most of cooking, he does most washing.
Anyway. Weds I go to college at 10-12. I don't drive so drop the kids at childminders and school then get bus to college. Youngest is there 9-3 & here lies the problem. I get back from college at 1, bus drops me at home. I come home and get 2 hours of assignment work in and sometimes get bits in house done. Then it's a 20 min walk to school and 20 min walk home. So I collect them all at the same time at 3. DP says I'm unreasonable for paying an extra 15pounds on a weds for youngest to be at childminders seen as though I could go straight after college to get him instead of coming home. I say I've already got a heap of work that needs doing and that takes the load of me a little instead of rushing around back and forth like an idiot.
Am I being U to pay 15 once a month to get assignments and bits done I can't any other time. Or is he been U moaning at me about it?
He doesn't do school runs because he usually isn't back in time for them and sets off before me. My mum will usually pick them up after work on her way home the days I'm working and drop them with him.
I personally think he is a moaning slightly lazy and I'm loosing my shit with it. I'm back on antidepressants because I'm so tired and worn down and low with everything on. Now I feel guilty about this.
WE also have 4 DC. So my hands are very full!