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...to have a mini-party for myself even though I've just lost my job?

30 replies

ThistleAmore · 24/10/2018 12:26

Quick breakdown: started new job six months ago (six-month probation period). F*cking hellish. Hated it, was making me physically ill as well as killing any confidence I had in my own abilities.

Went into work this morning, got asked in 'for a chat', effectively told my services were no longer required and to clear my desk and to clear my desk and go, as probation = no rights, essentially.

CONS: Have no job. Not especially looking forward to breaking the news to OH, who will be supportive, but I do feel as though I've let him down, which is weird, but there you go.

PROS: Relatively financially comfortable (enough savings to see me through a good few months, no mortgage, kids, debt etc) and confident enough of picking something up in my niche specialism pretty quickly. Never having to go into that hellhole and question my existence again.

I hadn't actually realised how much I hated it until I was driving home and actually felt physically lighter - as though an actual weight had been lifted off my shoulders.

So now I'm having a glass of wine, I realise it's barely luncthime, but hey, it's 5pm somewhere. Grin

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FrazzyAndFrumpled · 24/10/2018 12:27

Enjoy your wine and have a lovely week or so to yourself before you get back out there! It’s a blessing Grin

Parpulous · 24/10/2018 12:28

Haha best idea ever. Go for it!

ContessaGoesMarchingDOWNTOHELL · 24/10/2018 12:30

Fantastic! I got made redundant with a similar "fuck off now" attitude earlier this year; have now got a new job which is great. Losing that old job was the best thing that ever happened to me Grin

GreenTulips · 24/10/2018 12:30

Best thing i did was hand in my notice at a crap job
Have a drink on me - cheers

BlueJava · 24/10/2018 12:30

Go for it - sounds like it wasn't right for you anyway. Break out the cheese and chocolate to go with the wine and you party!!

Neverender · 24/10/2018 12:31

Yaaas! Happened to me too - best thing ever to have happened.

Neverender · 24/10/2018 12:32

Get a Chinese during the day too. I've always wanted to do that!

HouseOnTheLake · 24/10/2018 12:32

Pour yourself another one and enjoy a bit of time off! Wine

ThistleAmore · 24/10/2018 12:33

Fantastic! I got made redundant with a similar "fuck off now" attitude earlier this year; have now got a new job which is great. Losing that old job was the best thing that ever happened to me

This post makes me very happy. Grin

Thanks, all: if anybody would like to join me in a glass of supermarket PG, please do! There may well be Manhattans later on...

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ThistleAmore · 24/10/2018 12:34

Get a Chinese during the day too. I've always wanted to do that!

YES! Grin

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Wilberforce2 · 24/10/2018 12:35

Nothing worse than doing a job you hate and having to go there every single day, it really is soul destroying. Enjoy the feeling of not having to go there tomorrow and good luck on your next venture  Cheers!

ConciseandNice · 24/10/2018 12:35

Massive congratulations!! I walked out of a job I hated once. I just left at the end of the day and decided never to return. By the time I’d got to the front doors of the building I was practically singing and weeping with joy. YANBU!

GeoEm · 24/10/2018 12:36

Yes enjoy your wine and focus on you. As long as your stable financially maybe enjoy this time 'off' while you are looking for another job and celebrate the fact you don't have to go back to that hell hole!

Blessing in disguise. You will get something much better. :)

NoraLuka · 24/10/2018 12:38

Same here, basically got told to fuck off from my job. After a good cry bought a laptop with my redundancy money and have been self employed since. It’s only been 6 months but all good so far, losing that job was a blessing in disguise.

ThistleAmore · 24/10/2018 12:41

I suppose my only 'regret' is that my hand was forced, rather than choosing to go - which I really should have done.

But it's also made me confront my own inner cowardice and have a good word with myself about my own worth, so I guess everyone's a winner here. Every experience is a lesson, as they say. Also, being Scottish, I am a great believer in 'whit's fur ye'll nae gae by ye'.

Also, wine at lunchtime on a Wednesday. Grin

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IsTheRainEverComingBack · 24/10/2018 12:43

Enjoy your celebration! Life is too short to be stuck in jobs you hate if you don’t have to. Brush up that LinkedIn and think about how you’ll assess a new job next time so it’s one you’ll enjoy!

desertmum · 24/10/2018 13:01

I left a job I hated earlier this year, handed in my keys told them they were all fucking barking and went home. Felt great.

Papergirl1968 · 24/10/2018 13:04

Similar thing happened to me once. It was the best thing that ever happened to me.
Have some Wine and Cake

Loyaultemelie · 24/10/2018 13:06

Yes you definitely need some Cake to go with the Wine

PumpkinPie2016 · 24/10/2018 13:12

Enjoy your celebrations Wine

No job is worth sacrificing your happiness for and they sound awful anyway - decent employers would at least give a bit of notice so good riddance!Halloween Grin

More Wine for you!

PlinkPlink · 24/10/2018 13:53

Yes! Cheers! clinks glasses

Bet thing I ever did was quit and I was in a much worse off state financially than you.

Still don't regret it. Ever! That job broke me.

Parpulous · 24/10/2018 14:00

Might be worth forewarning the husband before you're too sloshed though Grin

ContessaGoesMarchingDOWNTOHELL · 24/10/2018 14:03

Glad it pleased you Grin

You might feel a bit upset later though, if my experience is anything to go by. I understood the decision at my place (financial problems), but it was the way they all treated me like a potential unexploded bomb that (ironically) really pissed me off. They tried to get me to do my exit interview over the phone the next day, but I refused and came in instead - I even brought cake (shop cake) to say goodbye, as I did like some of the people. I have never seen upper management look so shamefaced. They KNEW they were treating me poorly and I was so damn nice about it. Hah.

I did have a sad moment about having been given the bums' rush later on, but it dissipated....

ThistleAmore · 24/10/2018 14:08

I even brought cake (shop cake) to say goodbye, as I did like some of the people. I have never seen upper management look so shamefaced. They KNEW they were treating me poorly and I was so damn nice about it. Hah.

That's a bloody brilliant idea - I did actually like 99% of the people I worked with, it was really only management that was hellish.

Not sure I'm brave enough to stroll in, but I might send doughnuts. Wink

I've sent a brilliant (IMO) 'I'm not angry, I'm just...disappointed' email to our HR VP in the US, who has replied to say they will call me at 10am (US time) tomorrow morning 'to discuss' - I do actually like this person and, by their response, I'm not sure they knew what was going on - they don't sound best pleased.

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EnglishRose13 · 24/10/2018 15:02

Did they say why they were letting you go?