Tried to do this in a Person A/B anonymous way but felt it was way too clear who I was. So I'll do it from my perspective but promise I'll try and just keep to the facts...
So we've been seeing each other 3 months. All to me seemed to be going brilliantly. Couple of minor annoyances - as you always have - one of which was that he text me a lot in the way of 'I'm doing blah blah blah, what are you doing?'. This would be a few times a day. Not something I'm used to and I felt it put me on the spot a bit as a lot of the time I'm sat there with my phone in my hand thinking 'sat on the sofa scratching me arse??' Not a massive thing at all but made me feel just a wee under pressure.
So role on to Friday night, had a few post work drinks and get a similar message. I respond with 'you don't have to tell me everything you do in the day in detail smiley face kiss' Well that was it. Get a message telling me What I say is hurtful, And if I don't like me telling what I've done with my day, in detail or not, then perhaps I won't tell you anything at all and we should call it a day'. I react to this by saying 'if you're going to over-react to that fine I couldn't agree more' (admit I shouldn't have done that). He tells me I've really upset him so quote 'think on that*
Anyway, so next day I message not exactly and apology but an olive branch by saying 'are we going to talk about this?' to which I get a 'no sorry I might say something I regret and I don't want to spoil my weekend' (important family occasion). So I leave it til last night to do the 'what the fuck just happened' message and it turns out he didn't agree with the fact that the last time we met I'd asked him not to talk over me (not disagree as in with what I said, but he disagreed he did it), that me sending the 'you don't have to tell me about your day in detail' was incredibly rude and upsetting, that the last couple of times we've seen each other we've argued and that he doesn't like how we always drink when we're together.
I'll give him the drinking, he doesn't earn much so a lot of our night have been me cooking a meal with wine. We've discussed doing other things but for whatever reason it hasn't tended to happen. But we have spent days with each other and not drank. The 'arguing', the last couple of times he's stayed over he's woken me up in the night, the last time by wanting sex, and I've got ratty about it as I've been working the next day.
Just writing this is actually making me feel better that I haven't donr anything wrong...
Anyway, just last weekend we were making plans til pretty much the end of the year, he told me he wanted to meet my family, so we made plans for that, and then a few days later he's ended things over a miss-understood text message.
My last relationship was quite abusive and I opened up a little about that - mainly to explain why I can be a bit closed off about somethings. He's now also said that I compared him to my ex, which again is true - but favourably!!
Is there anything in that which I'm missing as to if I'm being selfish / unreasonable? I'm aware I've been single for a bit, and not in a 'normal' relationship before that so may not be seeing things the way other would.