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Bfp post miscarriage, AIBU to think this can't be right?!

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CakeAndTea1 · 22/10/2018 19:07

Sorry to post here but I'm so anxious and nervous and just a bit confused!! I've been an idiot and tested before my missed period. Admittedly I'm addicted. I've had three miscarriages this year, the last being about 2 months ago.

I had my first period post mc and it was awful. Very short but just awful, so painful and I was in bed for days. Not like me at all, mine are usually quite painless luckily.

Fast forward to now and I've been having extremely sore breasts for over a week. I thought I might just be due a mega period again and was preparing myself for that but the little voice in my head kept pecking at me to do a test even though I knew it would be negative. But it's not! It's very clearly positive.

I'm 6 days away from period... And I've been having sore breasts for over a week now.

Can my cycles really be so messed up that I've ovulated practically immediately after my last period or could this be just a dud test?

It's not the brightest positive but for 6 days pre period and considering it isn't even a special early testing one I think it's pretty clear.

I'm so scared that this is real and I will have to go through it all again. And feel like a total fool for not waiting until I was late Sad

Bfp post miscarriage, AIBU to think this can't be right?!
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Candlelights2345 · 22/10/2018 19:10

I’m sorry for your losses, but It looks positive to me.
I Was told that HGC lingers in your system for a while after a miscarriage and to wait for 2 clear periods until trying again. Were you trying again immediately?

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agnurse · 22/10/2018 19:11

It could go either way, really.

It certainly is possible to ovulate while on your period.

The good news is that, depending on the cause of the previous miscarriages, it may be somewhat more likely that this will be a "sticky" baby.

I wish you all the best.

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user1471461893 · 22/10/2018 19:11

I don’t really have any answers, and actually this is my first post but felt i just had to post. Today I had a BFP in almost similar circumstances, 2 misscarriages in last year, evac procedure done 8-9 weeks ago first period about 4 weeks ago and got a BFP this morning. Im swaying between shock, panic and fear that its wrong.

Hoping some of the responses may help me also. Hope thats ok.

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Boomchicawowow · 22/10/2018 19:16

Hi,
I know this might sound stupid but did you test to see when you got a negative? I was advised to test a few weeks after mc to check the hcg was zero and get a negative before trying again. I’m guessing that you were not advised that. If you had a period then it’s likely to be a new pregnancy rather than the old hormones but that cannot be ruled out.

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CakeAndTea1 · 22/10/2018 19:16

Candlelights2345 yes trying immediately, I have done every time. I did have bloods drawn though and HCG was down to 0 before my last period.

I just don't see how I can be having symptoms and such a clear positive when I'm not due on for a week still... Unless of course it's either false or I've ovulated very early.

I'm shaking with fear right now. I think I'm addicted to taking tests so I can relax for a while when it's negative. Which makes me sound crazy considering I want a baby so much but so desperately don't want to be pregnant again after my experiences. I'm so scared of going through it all again.

User absolutely, I'm so sorry you're going through this too but congratulations on the positive. I really hope it's good news for you xx

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Boomchicawowow · 22/10/2018 19:17

Book yourself into the docs ASAP though! They might want to give you baby aspirin or whatever it is they sometimes give nowadays! Flowers

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Babyorbust · 22/10/2018 19:18

It looks positive to me! Do you have another test of a different batch/brand you can take first thing in the morning. FWIW I had a M/C 6 weeks ago and all tests are now showing as negative.

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Boomchicawowow · 22/10/2018 19:18

Your update confirms it is a new pregnancy! If you got to zero then this is a new one! Ok, I stand by my post of getting yourself to the docs ASAP! Fingers crossed!

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CakeAndTea1 · 22/10/2018 19:20

Babyorbust no, annoyingly this was my last one :( I'll try and pick another up tomorrow.

Boomchicawowow yes, I definitely think it's a new one just confused about the dates and symptoms considering I'm only 3 weeks post period. I'll try and see Doctor.

God I'm so frightened. I shouldn't have tested early. I was convinced it would be negative.

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Scottishlass11e · 22/10/2018 19:22

I fell pregnant after a mc, I didn't even have a period in between

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Scottishlass11e · 22/10/2018 19:24

So yes, I believe this is a new pregnancy op. Most tests don't give out such a clear result without hcg being present
(Excluding clearblue as they are the devil of tests)

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Candlelights2345 · 22/10/2018 19:25

I also sat but a different brand of test and do it again in a couple of days. Is it worth waiting until you are (possibly) 4 + weeks to book an appt with the doc do you think?
I really hope you get the result you want Flowers

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Candlelights2345 · 22/10/2018 19:25

God the typos sorry - should read ‘I also say buy a different ....’

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CakeAndTea1 · 22/10/2018 19:30

Thank you all Flowers

I want to say I'll to try and forget about it for now but there's no chance. I can feel my anxiety starting already about it. I've never made it past 6 weeks Sad

I'll get another test tomorrow and try again with a more reliable brand!

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Scottishlass11e · 22/10/2018 19:31

Flowers op, I have everything crossed for you

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Rockbird · 22/10/2018 19:49

Happened to me, was pregnant again straight after a MC. She's running round now dressed as a witch and hitting things with her broomstick Hmm

I completely understand how stressed and anxious you are. Wishing you all the luck in the world Flowers

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CakeAndTea1 · 22/10/2018 19:51

Rockbird haha bless, thank you Grin

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FlippinNora1 · 22/10/2018 19:55

I had a mc 4 years ago. I had d&c under general and thought it would take forever to get pregnant again. 1st period was horrid and early. I was pregnant again 6 weeks after d&c. Very strong test, we were Shock

He is now a very lively 3.5 year old running rings round us Grin

Hope it’s good news OP Flowers

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aaaaargghhhhelpme · 22/10/2018 19:56

Just sending Flowers

I had three mcs in a row. When I got pregnant again I veered from panic to elation and back again all the time.

I would second other posters. Get another test and then maybe book to see a doctor. If you’ve had recurrent mcs are you under any investigations? When I had my third I was referred on to the hospital.

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LokiBear · 22/10/2018 20:03

Ovulation is out of whack post mc. It is likely you ovulated earlier. I got 'pregnant 2-3 weeks' on a CBD the day before my period was due. At my dating scan tbey moved my edd forward by a week. Fingers crossed for a sticky bean x

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Sleeplikeasloth · 22/10/2018 20:06

In reality, it's possible to conceive at any point in your cycle.

I'm currently pregnant, and I had symptoms 14 days before my period. I had a tummy bug, but the nausea never went. I took a test the say my period was due and it came back 3+ weeks pregnant.

My dates were shifted at my dating scan, which would mean conception 3 days after my period ended (which fits as its the only time we had unprotected sex), so it's certainly possible to get pregnant early in your cycle, and to have symptoms before your period begins.

From the test, it does look like an early positive to me. Best of luck in this one being sticky!

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CakeAndTea1 · 22/10/2018 20:23

Thank you all for the responses. I'm just sat here confused and shocked!

Praying for some luck this time if it's real!

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LokiBear · 22/10/2018 20:30

I found the 'pregnant after mc' forum on here really helpful. Congratulations on ypur pregnancy. It is a scary time, but fingers crossed. Flowers

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CakeAndTea1 · 23/10/2018 06:08

LokiBear thank you, I'll give that a look!

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AlphaBravo · 23/10/2018 06:22

Was your previous loss confirmed by a scan OP? I know several women who thought they'd had miscarriages/cp's but it turned out they just had bleeding and cramps and baby was developing fine. 6 days before your period is due would tell me this is the case now!

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