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AIBU Or is my partner being insensitive to me?

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Mummyto52019 · 21/10/2018 19:44

So im currently pregnant and have hyperemesis gravidarum, im being sick alot, so much so that i wet myself when im having a bad sickness episode which is extremely embarrassing for me, ive now started being sick into a bowl in the bathtub next to the loo, so i dont have to go through the embarrassment of wetting myself and having to change my clothes. My partner had ago at me saying i should pretty much either wet myself or pee in the bath and be sick in the toilet so he doesnt have to clean up my sick bowl. Is really upset me as im struggling alot with the sickness and embarrassment of wetting myself and i find the though of peeing in the bath degrading when i can just use the toilet, AIBU? Currently in my bedroom upset yet my partner doesnt see anythibg wrong with what he has said :(

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LilQueenie · 21/10/2018 21:13

if he wont help you how the hell is he going to take care of a baby. uncaring git.


artio0 · 21/10/2018 21:19

Your DH is a plum.

I'm with this one ^.

I didn't have HG but was vomiting a lot in the first trimester... I'd crash onto the couch crying after vomiting just from being frustrated about it, shouting at my DP to leave the sick bowl for me to clean afterwards but he did it anyway.


Italiangreyhound · 21/10/2018 21:19

When I had DD I had a C-section and an infection. They put a drain into my pelvis area via my vagina and I had to carry it around at hospital. Sorry TMI.

When dh had to come into hospital and help me shower. Not very sexy when your bloated, bleeding wife looks a mess and has to carry a drain around. My dh did it uncomplainingly. He bathed our lovely daughter and brought fresh clothes and chocolates.

Your partner needs to grow the fuck up.


Italiangreyhound · 21/10/2018 21:21

Sorry that should say He bathed our lovely daughter and brought fresh clothes and chocolates daily.


AutumnEvenings · 21/10/2018 21:54

What is he going to do when the baby needs it's nappy changing?
Unless OP is going to be a SAHM and able to cope with all bodily fluids 24/7, her DP will need to man up pretty quickly.


EnglishRose13 · 22/10/2018 06:55

Metoclopramide and Cyclizine taken together worked for me. Though, it completely knocked me out. I managed to go back to work and fell asleep at my desk.


Tinyears · 22/10/2018 13:28


I had HG throughout my twin pregnancy. It was worse than the crippling pelvic pain in the last weeks of pregnancy, and definitely worse than the C-section and recovery! I second the PP that suggested ondansetron - I was on this and proclorperizine. Tried the other drugs but they were not strong enough. I could just about manage bed rest even when dosed up. My DP did not hesitate to clean up after me, hold me up in the shower, & do whatever he could to make feel better. Your bloke sounds like an immature idiot.

I also cannot believe people saying that you should do it yourself. What's the point of a relationship if you can't rely on your partner to support you when you are at your weakest?

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