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Who told you Santa wasn't real..

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mummmy2017 · 20/10/2018 23:18

Who told you Santa wasn't real.. What age
Mine was siblings. About 6 years old.
My eldest said 7 children in playground and there being many santa-claus in shops.
Youngest was in infants her sister told her.
What about everyone else?

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EwItsAHooman · 21/10/2018 08:48

No one told me, it was a gradual realisation as I got older. I remember the year I had doubts, I was around 7 or 8 I think, and I went way overboard with the "isn't Santa awesome!" attitude as I tried to cling to the belief that he was real then by the following year I knew the truth. My mum said to keep it to myself and not tell my younger siblings.

DS is 9yo and I think this will be his last year of believing as he's started questioning it, the other DC still believe 100% though.

MichelleM30 · 21/10/2018 09:48

Em.....I was 11! My mum said oh come on I think your a bit big to still believe he's real!

I was gutted, still am!

Obv kids in school used to say he wasn't real. I had an answer for everything when they used to say why he wasn't real.

I love Christmas and I just so wanted it to be real!

CarryOnScreamingValenta · 21/10/2018 09:53

I worked it out for myself. I remember having a very serious conversation with a school friend who'd reached the same conclusion:
"It's your mum and dad, isn't it?" "Yes ..." I was about 8.

Bellatrix14 · 21/10/2018 09:54

I actually only properly believed until I was about 6 I think, but when I tried to question my mum about it (multiple times!) she almost refused to let me stop believing! I think I was about 9 or 10 when I officially told her I had twigged, but I kept getting presents from FC for a year or two after that because of having a much younger sibling

I think the main reason I stopped believing was because nobody could give me a straight answer as to why FC ignored children from very poor backgrounds and didn’t buy them any presents. That, and him using the same wrapping paper as my parents every year

Birdsgottafly · 21/10/2018 09:56

MichelleM30, at 11 did you not wonder why people were dying from starvation etc when a fat white man (no not Trump) could magic up presents?

EwItsAHooman · 21/10/2018 10:00

MichelleM30, at 11 did you not wonder why people were dying from starvation etc when a fat white man (no not Trump) could magic up presents?

That's a bit harsh!

speakout · 21/10/2018 10:05

Santa is real.

He lives in a very special place- the world of the imagination.

The Santa spirit is very alive in our home, and my youngest is 18.

PrincessDando · 21/10/2018 10:11

I worked it out for myself when I found a bag with stocking fillers in my mums wardrobe 3 weeks before Christmas. I was 7 and would be fine with my kids working it out at that age, as It's a sign of intellligence to work it out IMO. Wouldn't be so happy if they were just told by someone elsc though.

iklboogiemanunderthebed · 21/10/2018 10:11

Monster Fun Annual 1975. One of the cartoons showed parents bringing the presents in. Thanks Baby Grumpling! 😡

Willow789 · 21/10/2018 10:16

My big brother! I was devastated. He was 10 and I was 7. Little shit had found the wrapping paper that our 'santa' presents were wrapped up in. Showed me the evidence and I was very upset.

EllieMentry · 21/10/2018 10:21

Nobody. FC was always very low key in our house and he only brought a small stocking so there was no elaborate playacting to do a big 'reveal' about. The magic was always in the possibility rather than actually believing the story was real.

We did the same with our kids - just let them think what they thought and enjoy the possibility that there might be a kernel of truth in a magical story.

They probably realised quite young but it wasn't discussed. I'm sure other kids said things to them but we were always vague about it. Our line was that if you believe, you believe. If they don't, that's fine. They didn't question it. Worked for us!

Groovee · 21/10/2018 10:30

I asked my mum and she told me. I already knew. Just needed it confirmed.

MereDintofPandiculation · 21/10/2018 10:39

Can't remember believing. Already didn't believe when I went to school at 5 so Vicar arriving at school dressed up as Santa seemed no more than a bit of play acting.

DS says it was when he realised Santa used the same Christmas wrapping paper as I did.

DangerousBeanz · 21/10/2018 10:44

I was given a lovely response to the question of is Santa real by a university professor when my ds was about 8.
He said to say it's a matter of belief.
Either you can choose to believe that Father Christmas is real, and that he is a spirit of love and generosity and the Christmas spirt as a person, and that this Christmas spirt brings love and presents and happiness to people all over the world.
Or you can choose to believe that this doesn't exist, can't exist and never has existed. Now i know what I prefer to believe, and to me Father Chrismas is very real and always will be, because that is nicer and makes me happy.

I said this to ds. He chose to believe to, and even when he was 18 we put down the mince pie and carrot and presents "magically" appeared under the tree. Then i had dd so it still continues.
It's part of our Christmas tradition and I think I'll still choose to believe in Father Christmas when I'm 90.

user1484424013 · 21/10/2018 13:56

I was 13 🤣🤣🤣 my mum let it slip. My girls 10 and 7 still believe. I think we did a good job in being catholic and that santa is st Nicholas and that gifts are delivered are on Jesus birthday. Works for us and the logic in that made sense to them. Plus it's a true story so technically not a lie.

CraftyGin · 21/10/2018 13:57

I’ve always known that Father Christmas wasn’t real.

ThatssomedeadbratCarrie · 21/10/2018 13:58

He’s waaaaaaaaaaaattttt?????

ShadyLady53 · 21/10/2018 14:18

Lots of people (older cousins, “rough” kids at school) tried to tell me but I didn’t believe it until I was 8 and saw my Mum come into my room and hang the stocking on the end of the bed. I was really sad and didn’t tell anyone I knew until I was leaving primary school. It felt like I was grown up and I didn’t want to be yet.

Santaclarita · 21/10/2018 14:22

Can't remember but I know I didn't tell my parents so that I would still get extra presents.

Did the same with the tooth fairy. Never believed that, but they gave me money so I wasn't gonna argue was I? My mum was mad when I told her.

Juanbablo · 21/10/2018 14:47

No one. I worked it out but never really said anything. I don't think any of my DC's know yet.

wanderings · 21/10/2018 14:52

It was all the different people dressed as Santa that convinced me he wasn't real. But I was a very cynical child who realised early on that adults lie all the time, so I disbelieved many things. Indeed, I thought that if things often appeared in fairy tales they must be made up, so I was surprised to learn that some things were real (rainbows, wolves, foxes, lions, budgies that talk).

justwantcheesee · 21/10/2018 15:00

Genuinely nobody ever told me. My mum and dad kept it up for years and swore blind he was real everytime I asked.

Vampiratequeen · 21/10/2018 15:14

I was 8, my friends older brother told me.

LynetteScavo · 21/10/2018 15:26

My mother. On Christmas Day. In the church carpark. I was nine years old. I cried. She said she didn't want me making a fool of myself. I was just going a long with the whole Father Christmas thing. My eldest D.C. have gone along seamlessly with the whole thing. I would never, ever tell them FC isn't real. If they figure it out for themselves, so be it. My 19yo has always been particularly into Father Christmas. Last year he got a new bike seat in his stoking, even though he told me he didn't want one. Shortly after Christmas he said "sometimes Father Christmas knows what you want, even when you don't. My new saddle's really good."

If my SM had said the same thing to my D.C., there may have been a row.

LynetteScavo · 21/10/2018 15:27

Oh, and my 19yo will be getting a stocking this year. [santa]

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