AIBU to totally lose my shit

[Whiskeywithwater]

With my DD .. who has lost her entire school sports kit on train tonight??

I have only just replaced her school swimming stuff she had previously left on train ... at a ridiculous cost of £60 as costume had to be bought through official supplier - daylight robbery. Just priced up replacing this lot at £205

Feel bloody awful - she was sobbing her heart out, but seriously - £265 of lost kit in 6 weeks, and that’s not including the 4 lunch boxes lost in previous couple of years and untold water bottles.

For context, she’s in year 9 and coming up 14. Should she not have some more responsibility by now. She’s offered her savings to pay for it. I’m tempted to take it - not forever, but keep it for a couple of months to teach her a lesson

What happens if you don't replace it? Maybe if she gets in trouble at school she might start to remember it. Also make her do jobs to pay for it. Hopefully some consequences might help her to remember.

As well as trying lost property, contact the local station sometimes school stuff gets handed in at our local one as they know the kids will be back the next day it's hung onto.
Also ask on a local FB page and see if anyone has spotted it, if it went off the train it may be the contents scattered and bag removed from scene.

After DS lost his third winter coat in two months (he'd put it down to play football and forget to pick it up afterwards) I marched him down to the Buildng Society and he withdrew enough money to pay for a new one.

I didn't actually get angry; I just said that he had to pay this time to help him remember not to do it again. It worked.

Thanks all .. some good replies there that have brought me down and put things in context a bit! Just to say the kit wasn’t in a posh logo-ed bag - that was the swimming bag, I’d already learnt my lesson in that! Was in a fluorescent green £10 holdall! I’m going to take half the money, get her doing (more) chores, then give her the money back in a couple of months .. hopefully lesson learnt

It’s worth checking if it’s been handed in, especially if it’s not in a fancy bag. I used to get the train to work at the same time as a lot of school children, and it’s mayhem- people used to leave stuff all of the time.