To bleach my daughter’s hair?

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My dd is 14 and is desperate to dye her hair lilac. She has quite dark brown hair so it would need to be bleached first.

In principle, I don’t have a problem with this, she is home educated due to ASD and so no issues with school not allowing it.

However, for insurance reasons salons won’t bleach her hair as she’s under 16. She is CONSTANTLY banging on about getting it done, and has been for ages. So this leaves the option of doing it at home. I have never bleached my own hair so I have no idea what I’m doing, or how straightforward it would be. I’ve warned her that I’m no hairdresser but this hasn’t put her off.

Is this a terrible idea? Any advice appreciated.

I’ve phoned a few salons and they’ve all said no, although they can use non bleach dye products.

Wig purchased and she’s a happy girl :)

Make sure you get a wig cap so it doesn’t slide about too much 😁

My mum let me dye my hair black when I got into high school and I was allowed to bleach it at the age of 13. I became obsessed with the colour changing and have had my head shaved twice because of the bleach causing so much damage to my hair. If she's willing to accept it might not work and her hair will without a doubt be ruined if not done gradually and at a hair salon then go for it but I do not recommend the home dyes.
Hair salons use dyed that have conditioner in and are much better for our hair than the box dyes (and live xxl are the worst).
If you decide to dye it then I highly recommend the miracle moist conditioner and the same hair treatment for a long period of time.
Whatever you decide it's your daughter and her choices even though it's best to wait, just make sure it's done gradually and professionally done 😊

Oh and if the wig is too “big” (you’ll know what I mean if it is!) stick it on her head with a beanie/bobbly hat on top to calm it down, works like a charm!

I did it all the time at that age. Never had a negative side effect. You could never tell that I did these days. But you will have to upkeep it alot

My kid is 12 and has green hair. She's had it done at a salon and I have also done it for her at home. I don't get what the issue is. Her hair is fine. School are OK with it and she is just a happy little green-haired girl.

Hey hair looks like mine - bleach it with a mild one and the use a toner to bring the colour lighter, ypu can get shampoo and conditioners that do this - for the lilac colour superdrug do a range called colour freedom, choose a nice purple but don’t bother buying the pasteliser to go lilac its just conditioner - mix it woth whatever you have at home. I have gone through the rainbow and have dark thick Mediterranean hair so have had my fair share of bleach. I would really reccomend instead of doing her whole hair doing a layer close to her neck (so when she braids it puts it in a bun or even wears it down it can be seen I would from the bottom or mid of her ears down to where her hairline ends) - when she bleaches it she needs to do seperate shampoo and condition because bleach strips moisture from the hair and a two in one simply wont do. I bleached my hair every six months because even though my hair grows fast bleach is damaging - i would say do an under layer and then the whole thing later if she still wants it Apologies fo the long reply - I spent five years bleaching my hair and dying it funky colours x

I have hair that dark and wouldn't. Try some clip in until she's old enough for a salon to try.

I wouldn't have a problem with it, if you are careful and don't do what I did last week - change from bright green to bright red via bleach, after Colour B4 hadn't worked. As I was rinsing the bleach out, half of my hair fell out and now I have sections that are two inches long and some that are shoulder length. I got carried away watching a documentary on the tv whilst the bleach was developing and left it on 15 minutes too long. I only have myself to blame.

My dd had hers done in a salon at 13! No problem with insurance as I was there to authorise it. She had the bottom 8 inches of very long hair bleached out then dip dyed a bluey/purple. It was lovely but it does damage the hair. Not an issue for me as she had it done at the start of the summer holiday on the proviso that it would all be chopped off (all the bleached bit) before she went back to school.

I dye my 12 year olds hair but only the ends. I bleached it myself too. Her hair is fine and healthy but it is also a dark blonde, not dark brown. Just experiment with the ends, my daughter is always ok with it being just the ends. Weird that salons won't do it though??

My hair looked a lot like hers and I've achieved a white blonde at home, with texture that feels like natural, undyed hair. Just takes patience and a lot of products- toner, deep conditioner, etc.

Mind you, also have a collection of wigs.

Wrt her wig, get her a wig cap and have her look up tutorials on how to pin her hair up out of the way.

If she’s happily accepting a no, then go with that tbh.

But I’ve bleached and coloured my DD’s hair lots, lilac was rubbish because yeah you can’t get a light enough colour at home, but I’ve done fuschia and a couple of different purples and they were fine.

We started with ends so it could be cut out if needed kind of graduated to the whole lot and now she’s grown it out again.

I mean yes, it frazzled her hair a bit, but nowhere near enough that it did anything other than went a bit dry.

You could always find a mobile hair dresser and ask them to do a water bleach treatment on it.
It's a less harsh version of bleach which will tone her natural colour and bring it slightly lighter. As she has obviously never used hair dyes or bleach before there is no reason why bleach would absolutely ruin her hair if done properly.
You could do the water bleach treatment a couple of times over a period of 6 weeks before applying a lilac colour and it should cause minimal damage. It's called Effesor or something. Typically used on dark brown to black hair to lighten it.

tell her everything that could go wrong so that she can't say it's all your fault!

She is a teenager. It will be all your fault regardless. As a frequent hair ruiner, I would say wigs and extensions would be your friend. I have had home educated daughters with pink and blue hair at 6 and 7 years old though so I'm a total hypocrite!

My mum put bleach "flashes" in my hair when I was about 15 that we dyed bright pink... I have really dark brown hair and it worked fine!

Might be an idea to compromise with the ends? If it goes wrong they can always be cut off and it's not a big deal!

, otherwise no teenager would have highlights etc.

I have a 16yo DD................they do most of it themselves .
No age limit I think to buying these kits

You can also dye it back to a darker colour in case it doesn't look right, obviously the hair will still be damaged to an extent.
Its not as simply as simply putting dye over bleach, you can end up with khaki hair, patchy or dark hair hair with ginger patches still poking through.

I really wouldn't do it! I tried to dye an ex's hair blonde when I was 16, didn't know you had to pre bleach it and it went bright orange. I think pre bleaching comes with plenty of possibilities for disaster as well. As PPs have said maybe do a bit on the ends so it can be cut off if it goes wrong, but if it does you will be hearing about "when mum ruined my hair" forever!