To think I’ll never have a relationship?

[flyinghedgehogs]

I’m pushing 40 and it’s yet to happen.

I just honestly don’t know how people do it. How do people end up with partners, boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands, wives?

I am thinking I missed some of the gene here.

It is terribly hard and such a chance thing, but don't give up. Try New hobbies that have more men at, dating events where you meet men in person can be more successful. You could try setting yourself some goals, positive goals for your life. I do this when I get down, to get my life back in the positive 😀

There’s a group for single people in my town. It’s not a dating group- more an opportunity to get together for social events and outings. Could you check for something like that in your area?

I get where you are coming, from, you get to a point you are embarrassed by your lack of experience so you are scared of trying.

I'm same as you you get older your friends drift away as have family's.

Why do you not feel attractive I'm sure you are looking lovely person with so much to give. If you were in Yorkshire I'd be hitting you right up.

I had my first proper relationship at 38, met him after years of trying OLD we are getting married next year. Never thought that would ever happen. Don't give up hope :-)

I've never been on a date 🤔 been marroed over years but never 1 date in my 39 years of existence!

How comfitable are you around men(or potential partners)? Do you feel you can chat away? If you are lonely start to fill that hole first because there is less presure on you to be or feel something you are unsure of. As you grow more confident with hobies and socialising your frienship group will grow and you will meet far more people. Increasing you chance of meeting someone special.
My dad is a widower and he did online dating, initailly for friendship, then romance and now back to just wanting friendship. There are many people out there feeling the same way as you do, including some who have partners. Please try to find some companionship through friends at least as you do sound unhappy 💕

This thread is helping x

I think you are being a bit defeatist tbh , its a about confidence as well as meeting people , if you meet people whilst doing a hobby , social event etc you migjt not feel so anxioys or nervous its not usually about looks either, most people are fairly pleasent looking , average etc but beauty is in the eye of the beholder and someone cam seem far more attractive when rhey are confident , and sociable ., one thing is for sure you are not going to meet somone sat at home doung nothing, so get out there!