To tell a 14 year old to shut up?

[Coconutpumpkin]

14 year old in question most put out (in a school setting.)

Was this unreasonable?

Need more info, far too vague and impossible to say!

Nowhere near enough info

From a teacher or school staff? Yes

If you used those actual words YWBU. No reason to be so rude whatever the situation.

Telling anyone to shut up is really nasty. Horrible thing to say.

In a school? Rude. I'm a TA andI want to say this on many occasions but have trained myself to say be quiet instead.

I suppose it depends at bit if there was bantz going on but very much against the behaviour policy where I work.

Be quiet, yes.

Shut up, nah,;you can't say that 😣

Context?

Hell! I've told whole classes of 16 - 19 year olds to shut up!

When shush and stop talking don't work shut.up can be said very sharply.

If that doesn't work dropping a heavy book, from height, onto a desk usually booms loud enough to make them stop... for a moment!

All about context and the relationship between the shutter upper and the shuttee!

It's rude but I do get exasperated and say that to my kids

School setting?

You walked past the gate, the 14yo yelled racist abuse at you? YANBU.
You are the teacher and this 14you chatted with his mate in class? YABU.

I think ''Class! shutttttup!'' is ok because it's directed at the whole class but telling one girl to shut up is not great

Context needed!

oh hang on! She yelled out racist abuse to you!? Well then pity about her. Little brat. I was picturing a chatterbox.

Oh for goodness sake, a 14 year old should be able to cope with being told to shut up.

Unless they were raising valid serious concerns and the perpetrator was saying it.

Kicking off the weekend with vague threads. 😎

Interesting that the context is completely missed out.

Siun no-one yelled racist abuse

I don't think Siun has the OP highlighted...

Of course you can. You're human

Context is everything. Cannot judge without it.

"Shut up" wouldn't bother me. Dd heard a PE teacher say to a child "No one likes a snitch" the other day because they were telling tales on someone. I thought it sounded more like something a 14 year old school bully would say than a teacher but there we are.

If you would say the same to an Adult then that's fine.

It's not a great way to communicate, but if that's your level, then that's your level.

If you used your positions a Adult to belittle a you g person, then YABU and hopefully the young person won't follow your example.

If my 14 year old came home and said a teacher had told them to shut up I'd tell them they shouldn't have been talking. (In reality I'd be bloody shocked as my 14 yo barely talks at school! But I'd still not be bothered.)