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To think this is embarrasing...

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Marliyaloo · 19/10/2018 09:17

Me and DP have a 5 month old DD, his bestfriend and his GF have a 4 month old DD. I'm fairly good friends with his GF, lets call her Sarah and DPs bestfriend Sam.

Sam was due to come and see DP straight after work for a brew about 5 but didnt turn up. Sarah text at 6 saying is it ok for them all to come at 7 for a takeaway and to watch a film. We said yes and they came.

We decided to order chinese and Sam ordered honey roast pork. The restaurant didnt do it, so made up a random concoction of pork and ginger noodles. Sam wasnt happy and made a massive fuss saying hes not just eating plain rice, that its ruined his night, he'll have to eat when he goes home blah blah blah... so Sarah rang the chinese and asked them to deliver a curry sauce. His moaning and complaining went on and on and they started arguing with each other about who was paying, who was going to give their DD a bottle, why hadnt Sarah been shopping that day, well Sam was a "selfish bastard" meanwhile me and DP sat looking over at each other trying not to laugh as it was just so awkward. Who comes to someones house and starts having a domestic over some pork?!

Anyway curry sauce arrives so they have that with some chicken and rice. They stayed for about half an hour after that, still being awkward making little comments then sam stood up and said theyd have to go because he was still hungry and his night and had been ruined...

Safe to say I dont think we will be agreeing to a chinese night again wtf!

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reallyreallynow · 19/10/2018 09:19

Hmmm the stress and strain of a new baby I would say! If it's out of the ordinary cut them some slack and pretend it didn't happen?

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NonaGrey · 19/10/2018 09:22

So they invited themselves to your house and then spent the evening arguing?

They should certainly be embarrassed and no, I wouldn’t be inviting either of them round again in a hurry.

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GiveMeAllTheGin8 · 19/10/2018 09:25

So strange!

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HelmetHair1 · 19/10/2018 09:25

Definitely embarrassing! Hopefully baby induced sleep deprivation?! I'd be mortified.

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RochelleGoyle · 19/10/2018 09:25

They're likely to be tired, stressed and yes, probably very embarrassed. Assuming they don't normally behave this way just let it go.

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Marliyaloo · 19/10/2018 09:26

Normally they bicker slightly but never has it been that awkward. Sarah suggested going for a meal next week we're convienently busy that day Grin

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GreenLantern53 · 19/10/2018 09:27

yep sounds cringey and awkward.

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PodgeBod · 19/10/2018 09:31

Yes really embarrassing but I wouldn't hold it against them unless it happened again

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NameChangeCuddleBums · 19/10/2018 09:39

I bet they are more embarrassed than you. I bet they are really tired.

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reallyreallynow · 19/10/2018 09:40

@Marliyaloo fair enough be conveniently busy, but as I've said earlier on they may be struggling with new baby?

You sound extremely judgy and not someone that I would want as a friend.

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PyongyangKipperbang · 19/10/2018 09:41

Sam sounds like a brat.

I cant work out the pork thing though, surely when it was ordered the takeaway said "No, we dont do that" and you order something else? How on earth did it get to them cobbling something random together?!

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Marliyaloo · 19/10/2018 09:42

Yes I have a baby whos only a month older myself. I was somewhat joking but me and DP wouldnt invite ourselves to someones house and act like that..

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Marliyaloo · 19/10/2018 09:43

I know Pyong the takeaway said they didnt know what it was so tried to make something else when S rang back. Its just the way sam behaved!

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reallyreallynow · 19/10/2018 09:44

@Marliyaloo because you've got a baby a month older and may be coping better, does mean your "friends" are? Have some empathy and maybe speak to them and say "hey you seemed really stressed the other night, are things ok? You know like friends do?

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PuppyMonkey · 19/10/2018 09:46

Honey roast pork? Confused

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Marliyaloo · 19/10/2018 09:47

Actually Sarah was saying how well their Dd sleeps so stressed maybe but still doesnt really justify inviting yourself to someones house to act like that. Fair enough, do it in your own home if me and DP had gone there so we could just leave..

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Notacluewhatthisis · 19/10/2018 09:50

To be honest I would just chalk up to one of those things.

If you are friends, i wouldnt find it embarrassing. Just one of those things. I would forget it.

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reallyreallynow · 19/10/2018 09:50

@Marliyaloo sleeping well does not mean that their not stressed! I don't suppose they intended to invite themselves for an argument, do you?

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troodiedoo · 19/10/2018 09:50

Not coping with a baby doesn't give you a free pass to act like a dick.

I would speak to Sarah and check she is ok

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Iaimtomisbehave1 · 19/10/2018 09:50

Someone who repeatedly says their night has been ruined by one slip up is the sort who is just like that usually. It's not a tired thing or a new baby thing. It's just the way they are; flying off the handle at every little thing. I would distant myself from him.

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Beesandfrogsandfleas · 19/10/2018 09:52

It's odd that it's the man having the freak out. PerhPs nothing to do with the bay and he's just a dick.
Hopefully Sarah's not on mumsnet.

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Stellenbosch · 19/10/2018 09:54

@Marliyaloo You sound a little bit smug and very judgemental... maybe that's more embarrassing than a couple with a newborn having a domestic?

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Marliyaloo · 19/10/2018 09:54

I will speak to sarah! It was Sam acting up and hes always been like this (like i said before its never been that awkward!)

No reallyreallynow I dont think they came with the intention of arguing, but like troodiedoo said its not an excuse to start being a dick. Im stressed, i dont start snapping at someone elses home when its meant to be a nice evening that I arranged x

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WonderTweek · 19/10/2018 09:54

Oh god my mum and her on and off partner did this last year. We all went to my father-in-law’s for some drinks (well I stayed till about 7pm and went home with my then little baby) and they ended up bickering about something minor but then my mum’s partner started hinting that my father-in-law was being “too friendly” towards my mum (he’s insanely jealous) so it all kicked off. I was mortified and so was my mum when she sobered up the next day. 😑So it does happen! My father-in-law was good as gold and just a bit amused by it all and said that they’re welcome in his house any time, but my mum’s partner hasn’t been since (probably because they have been pretty “off” since that night). 😂

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Marliyaloo · 19/10/2018 09:55

@WonderTweek 😂

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