Sorry if this is tmi but posting for traffic.
Dh and I have vastly different sex drives. Dh wants it all the time. He could literally have it 5 times a day and still not be satisfied. I'm the other end of the spectrum.
For context, i have a busy and demanding job. Dh has a more physical job but works shifts (days abs nights) and has a lot more time off than me.
I am normally up at 545 every morning to pack bags, make lunches, depending on what shift dh is on i do nursery drop off for dd (2 years old) work all day, again depending on shift dh or myself will pick dd up. I get home around 6pm. We have dinner then its some time with dd, bath and bed. Its usually around 9 by this point and i then need to shower and finish the odd bits of housework that need doing (washing, loading dishwasher) and then i want to sleep, which is when dh starts moaning i don't give him any attention.
Dh is off for 2 weeks now (combibation of annual leave and shift work) and has now started messgaing me about sex during the day. Wants me to engage is conversations about what we'll do when I back (apparently talking about matching his socks up isn't a turn on!) He then gets upset when i tell him i am at work and don't have time to engage in his sext conversations. Or on the odd occassion i do, he takes it literally and gets upset when we don't have time to do anything.
I am honestly drained. I have tried telling him that a lot of people in our situation are the same, where as he seems to think that all of our friends are at it like rabbits!