To wonder why on EARTH

[catchykissy]

You would have a child if you're going to get a round the clock nanny?

What's the point???

if i had kids and were rich hell yeah id have a nanny, also id have a cleaner and chef etc

Proofer absolutely I agree, but just because someone works full time doesn't mean their kids will have the experience your husband did. If I did, I certainly wouldn't be making the same choices as my parents.

I can only think of one reason to start a thread slagging off people for using a particular level of childcare.

SoupDragon

Me too

Now is the time your fertile. Later is when you can take your foot off the pedal career wise. Because you only live once?

It's an ex boyfriend! Feels strange someone calling him my husband haha

But you are right. I suppose I just haven't talked about it so in depth with anyone else so his experience has stuck with me. That's what's so great about Mumsnet it opens you up to others' experiences

Haha my apologies proofer! Absolutely I agree, I'm sure I'm screwing up my children in my own special way but I'm quite confident it's not through working, probably something else (like being on my phone too much...) 😂

Why do these women have children? I don’t know? A biological urge, pressure from family and society, because they can and they are perfectly entitled to hire as much help as they want to.

OMG why do these rich bitches even have a house if they don’t want to clean it themselves!?!

Why so frosty OP? Have you just joined MN? No way to go about making friends and all that

@LostInShoebiz

When mine were very little I often used to imagine how different the experience of parenting would have been if neither me or DH had to work and so there were 2 adults around all the time. If I could have afford to pay to have another adult around I absolutely would have done. My preference would have been for a housekeeper not a nanny but the principle is the same.

Imagine not having to bundle everyone out of the house because you've run out of milk or whatever. Someone holding the baby and entertaining the toddler while you have a proper shower instead of a rushed 5 minutes with them in front of CBeebies. If it was your goal it would allow you so much more quality time with your DC. I'd have been a much better parent if I hadn't felt so frazzled so much of the time.

Even if it was to allow you to work the effect would be the same - coming in to kids having their tea/ready for bed rather than dashing to Tesco on the way to nursery then having to get food on when all you want to do is cuddle on the sofa and read stories.

Urge to procreate happens at all levels of society. Some give up work and get benefits. Some keep working and get a nanny. Everyone is different.

Ah, so this is basically just a "women should stay at home" job?

I'd love a nanny. For the 2yo. He's driving me bonkers right now. I'm all over parenting the 6yo in an epic way though.

Seriously OP, what's your actual opinion on how two parents should balance work and raising children?