To wonder why on EARTH

[catchykissy]

You would have a child if you're going to get a round the clock nanny?

What's the point???

I agree OP if you're talking about very rich people who have quite a few nannies. I mean those types on the real housewives of bh etc. I don't understand why they have children. I also remember a very well known sports presenter who was talking about how exhausting it was having to look after her 2 children. I had no sympathy when I found out she had a rota of daytime and nighttime nannies.

I agree with you OP. An ex of mine has a strained relationship with his parents because he was at a childminders every day 8-5 while they both worked in high profile jobs. They love him immensely and support him, and he understands that, but he feels he was raised by his childminder and grandma and it has greatly affected his relationship with them.

Teastorm 8-5 isn't much more than school hours, I don't see how it could have that much of an affect? My parents worked those hours and we had a very "normal" family life with great memories and close relationships still.

@Kit10 this was from when he was a few months old. All through the school holidays. Dropped off/picked up by childminder everyday.

I know people will disagree but I think this time after school builds up and is quite significant.

Name change fail. Oh well 

Was this the thread about the woman earning £100,000?
Really strange how so many people on this site are pro women working and having a life outside of children yet are willing to have a go at the other poster for asking a valid question. So what if some people work and have a nanny?

Proofer sounds very similar to my upbringing, and also my children's. I think it's more down to his parents rather than the fact they worked. It's about what you do the time you have together. I have very good relationships with my parents, excellent memories and they are the reason I am so career driven and hard working and that I didn't see the need to choose between a family or career. I am confident I am raising my children the same way, but I will keep an eye out on Mumsnet in 20/30 years time to see if their future spouse says differently 😉

I'm unsure of the salary

But I'm pro women having an opinion and this is mine

It depends doesn’t it.ther rate loads of reasons
They could be employing nannies to cover 24/7 because they often have to go away in business as short notice and need to have cover in place a all time.
They could have a disability which means they can’t care for a child on their own so need help with lifting or need someone there in case they have a fit etc
They may have a bastard of a rich husband who expects them to look perfect all the time (so need a nanny while they go to the gym/have beauty treatments etc) and then need a nanny at night as they have to be at thier husbands beck and call for sex on tap
They may work for themselves and have to work all hours so need cover
They employ some of the nannies to do housework etc as well
They may have a mental issue so need support while parenting
The may be narcissistic selfish people who want to be able to do what they want when they want and don’t care about the kids
The ‘nannies’ may also be bodyguards

Who knows, each family is different. I’d love someone to drag the kids round to various acitvities and get gem ready in the morning so I don’t leave the house in the morning feeling like I just want to go back to bed

Just on the 24/7 point. I know a nanny who works for a family one month one one off. There are two nannies (one for each child) and replacements for the most they are off. Admittedly they are the super rich but it’s not as rare as you might think. She has had three similar jobs already and there were at least as many others recruiting.

Most = month

If you reason for having a nanny is to get your nails done to look nice for your husband, you have your priorities TOTALLY wrong and shouldn't have children

Well you're rude soup

Nashvillequeen considering the number of super rich to the rest of the population I think we can surmise it's statistically uncommon with all the families in the world or western world even.

Equally my point stands. If you're getting a nanny because you want to maintain a career of working away etc, I don't think raising children is for you

You think maintaining a career means you shouldn't have children...oh bless.

No. Not maintaining a career, but if you want to travel and ditch your kids on someone else, yes

My husband is military does that apply to him?

No because presumably you're doing stuff like feeding and putting your kids to bed. At least one parent is home

@Kit10 I appreciate that people will have different experiences, this is just his. And I would hate for something to impact my child like that. Your upbringing sounds lovely though, obviously there are different sides to every coin

You seem nice OP.

Catchy he was deployed 5 months this year, so surely by your standards he shouldn't of had kids? I go to work full time so they're being "dumped" somewhere.

Well you're rude soup

And you're a veritable ray of sunshine.