AIBU to just complain a bit?

[proseccoandbooks]

I've name changed because it's outing. But been there through all- cancel the cheque etc

I am in my mid twenties, I have a fairly decent relationship that might or might not end up in marriage ( this is another topic issue). I work 35 hours a week in a very demanding industry AND I have just started my second university degree.

I came home today and I am washing the bloody curtains. I almost fell asleep in class today.

I am tired. My house needs a very DEEP clean which I'm going to do at the week-end.

Can I have a pity party, please? And a hand hold? And very effective time management, please?

OP ignore the "I used to work 20 hours a day and feed 7 kids and study 3 degrees" brigade. 70 hours plus usual life is a lot.

Are you sure this is the right time to do your degree?
Does DP live with you?

Have a large coffee, a bottle of wine and a sympathy hug from me

It's a half an hour job + the time in the washing machine. Not a big deal

So why were you complaining about it in your OP?

I’m a little confused! Put your feet up and have a rest, sounds like you need it.

@SleepingStandingUp thank you! Much appreciated. Of course, saying is much easier than actually doing.

DP lives with me and to be honest he's really helpful and supportive. If he wasn't doing the thing he does (shopping, co-cleaning, dishes, small chores etc) I couldn't be able to do my second degree. Even so, I felt the need to just complain for 2 minutes. The wrong part is that I chose to do it with a bunch of strangers who can do it all and NEVER complain

Mate I wouldn’t be complaining on a random forum about that tbh there dosnt seam much to complain about 😂😂

I did rather imagine you on hands and knees s rubbing these old heavy curtains, slightly xuttes to hear you chucked them in the washer. Also that my dirty sex curtain theory was wrong hahah

I’m just going to leave this here....

Is this a stealth boast?

@SleepingStandingUp OH GOD NO! Who would do that? Also rather disappointed your theory wasn't true. But...... sex ON THE curtains?! What kind of theory is that?!

Is this a stealth boast?

Get me, I'm so superior with my clean curtains.

Hmm.

@MamaLovesMango stealth boast? Nope, stealth boast would've been "my first class degree I got helped me earn +100k/annum, here I am, working 20 hours a week and drinking prosecco".

Well like curtains hanging up, sex stood up against them. Those really heavy full length ones that you get in stately homes that have to be hand cleaned.

I was trying to guess the cleaning urgency when you're knackered.

@SleepingStandingUp and of course, clean curtains, but only the ones in 1 bedroom. Stealth boast ruined

If you're on 100k drinking prosecco I'd get a cleaner and make her hand wash the curtains

You’re having a bloody wonderful life if you’ve got clean curtains that you’ve cleaned yourself!

Bedroom curtains you say. I revert to my sex against them theory.

You sound stressed out. Something I wish I'd been told more in my 20s was, as they say, shit or get off the pot. Otherwise you risk spending your years of maximum skin elasticity and disposable cash at home alone, washing your curtains!

If you really want or need the uni course, then embrace that and make compromises elsewhere - whether that means getting a cleaner, resetting your cleaning standards. If not, then go part time (with either work or study)or quit.
If your relationship status isn't right, be open with him about what you want, listen to his view and if what you both want isn't the same, then leave, or actively decide to stay with the status quo.

Easier said than done, but don't waste your twenties feeling busy or overwhelmed and unhappy. Generally people find that things only get busier from here, as you will fill up your life with a focus on your career, kids or whatever is in your next chapter.

@SleepingStandingUp hell, if I had 20 hour weeks I'd HANDWASH them myself😂

No @proseccoandbooks that’s just an ordinary boast, not a stealth boast

@Stuckforthefourthtime this was really eye opening. I could probably afford going pt at work. I'm going to raise it soon with my boss. Also will look around for a cleaner, at least bi monthly. Thanks for your comment, I really appreciate it.

@MamaLovesMango then you'll have to teach me how to do a proper stealth boast

You’re having a bloody wonderful life if you’ve got clean curtains that you’ve cleaned yourself!
Nah thats clean curtains cleaned by someone else

Slight jealous Stuck got the gold star comment lol

Thanks everyone, really. And best of luck

Some people are more easily drained than others. I would certainly be exhausted by that and I did work full time and go to college three nights a week (didn't drive either so walked there for over and hour and back again). It is tiring and sometimes you just want a good old whinge about it for no other reason than it makes you feel better. YANBU.

I do the organised mum method which works great for me - I have a FT job and a PT job
30 mins cleaning in one room, 4 days a week after work for me (bedroom, bathroom, kitchen, living room) and nothing at weekends. One day a week I spend the 30 mins doing a deeper clean in one of the rooms

@hamabr86 thank you very much!
@Ollivander84 I've read before about the organised mum method. Sounds good and it seems like you can really keep on top of things with it. Thanks for your suggestion!