to not want to babysit after 8pm

[goldenwings]

unless its a dire emergency? we have an 8 month old and really dont want to babysit after 8pm as it usually means having to drive to my friends house as its to far to walk however our friends are now being funny with us because we refuse t look after their children when they go for a not out.

its not because we are nasty but because dp works 7 days and has tobe up at 6:15am they dont get in until gone midnight.also it mean our son cant settle and it throws his sleep out of whack.

for a NIGHT ot even

do they pay you?

If not it's your call

Do you hav esome kind of reciprocal arrangement going on?

no weve never been paid and theyve never looked after my son at night.

i was wondering if i was being unfair on them.

What do you get out of it?

how odd !! we baby sit for friends, who sit for us in return..or i pay a babysitter !!

you have a little one, your DH needs sleep...not unreasonable at all

and if they are being rude and ungrateful, then i;d leave it ! let them find free babysitting elsewhere

Well I wouildn't babysit at all apart from if they had an emergency or something or on a rare occasion when they just desperately needed some time out. Even then, I'd expect the same in return.

Bugger the 8pm issue. you are gaining nothing here.

I don't understand why you are being unfair? They don't have a right to expect you to babysit. There is no way I would be doing this with an 8 month old - he comes first - not these people. They should understand that now you have a child things are different.

Why not explain that you don't want to disrupt ds's routine too much and that you are only willing to babysit on rare occasions.

erm we dont get anything out of it. not even a fiver for petrol which i think is unfair because sometimes dp has to pick them up.

i think what really did it was the day got out of hospital a few weeks ago (i collapsed and it was discovered i had an ovarian cyst) i told my friend and she wanted me to sit the next day.

tbh since ive been saying no to sitting (dp is insisting i take it easy) ive not really spoke to her. except when she wants a sitter.

these aren;t friends, darling, these are users !

I think you know the answer - you're not being unreasonable and she's not a friend. Concentrate on your lovely baby and forget about them!

i think in my heart i know the answer but ive known her for 6 years and i know time to end the friendship as i cant give anymore.

i guess i just wanted reassurance you know.

friendship has to be two way, cannot be all take on one side

friends do outgrow each other

How very odd, why on earth do they expect that of you? Never mind 8 p.m., why should you babysit their children at all whilst they go out?

You know the answer.
Tell 'em to FUCK oFF.

Here here moondog

Hello goldenwings

you can say the f word here??????

Hear hear, Moony.

Yes, you can use the F word here, try not to use it to tell a MNer to F**K off and you should be ok.

Where were you before here ?? [nosey emoticon]

im not sure i want to say in case its an enemy forum lol.

but it had a major revamp and is nowhere near as good as it was. then someone recommended mn so i joined and so far its been great.

Bounty

im sorry kel4mum ive suddenly lost the power to read so cant understand that word

I think you should find some new friends. If anyone asks you to sit just say no! You have your own life with your baby and husband

Was the enermy forum you were called Bounty?
Ive noticed that a lot of new mners were orignally on Bounty and had said that they have revamped and its now crap.

God i must be getting tired, i cant spell.

lol well yes it was and yes its crap now loads and loads of people have left now.