to not want to babysit after 8pm

[goldenwings]

unless its a dire emergency? we have an 8 month old and really dont want to babysit after 8pm as it usually means having to drive to my friends house as its to far to walk however our friends are now being funny with us because we refuse t look after their children when they go for a not out.

its not because we are nasty but because dp works 7 days and has tobe up at 6:15am they dont get in until gone midnight.also it mean our son cant settle and it throws his sleep out of whack.

Bounty? What's that? You can post messages on a coconut and chocolate bar?? the mind boggles!!

Oooh, I love a Bounty.

I prefer m&ms

Goldenwings, they are SOOOOOO not friends. Believe me. Be strong. Just say NO!

Just in case you need a little more validation, they are being totally unreasonable. I'm that your dp actually goes to pick them up and they don't even offer petrol money. They are taking you for a ride. And if the only time they contact you is to ask you to sit, well, keep turning them down and eventually they'll get the message. You don't need friends like that.

i agree with other posters - you are not being unreasonable

if you are sad to let go of the friendship, why dont you ask her to babysit and see what she says? if she can't, then you can say 'it is probably easier now if we pay for babysitters' or something similar so she doesn't ask again?

well thank you so much for your replies.

they havent bothered with us so im not going to bother with them. i dont want to be taken for a mug anymore.

goldenwings, if you do want to babysit for someone, please feel free to come round to mine - I might even spring for a fiver for the petrol

Congratulations on kicking these people to the kerb.

Can't work out why you babysit your friends child at all... you don't seem to be getting anything back in return.

So tell your friend... NO you can't babysit. Suggest to them that they get a professional babysitter in to care for their children when they go out at night. I babysit , and I can often not be back until 1am or even later!

I belong to a babysitting circle so it is by definition a reciprocal arrangement.