When someone fucks up in those professions nobody dies.
Lol! Tell me, all you doctors on here - are you allowed to treat your own children; or are you deemed to be too emotionally involved to make the right decision?
We have a DD with the most severe complex epilepsy, per a Professor of Neurology and she has been under three!
For the last 10 years, if she got hungry or cold or hot or bored or inactive or stressed or excited or in pain, she went into status epilepticus and after giving 2 doses of benzodiazepines, we had to call 999.
Her consultant told me if she had 10 seizures in 20 minutes to call 999. I told him that happened every day, and as we have 2 other children, I could not spend 4 hours a day in A & E! He told me I knew her epilepsy better than anybody and to call when I was worried! So everyday, I had to make a decision whether to call 999, having also been told she could go into a state of continuous seizures, suffer brain damage and die within a few hours at any time!
How many doctors have to make sure in all their waking hours, that their child never gets hungry, cold, hot, bored, etc or else they will be in A & E and an admission to HDU? An example, DD wet herself during a seizure. I was cooking dinner and she told me she was going upstairs to change! She had a seizure, coming down and fell down the stairs - all because in the split second, I did not think when she has one seizure, another one often follows! She has suffered numerous head, neck and back injuries, broken teeth and bones falling down in seizures! All it took in the winter was to open the front door, and as the cold air rushed in, she fell down unconscious and hit her head on the radiator! Likwise, stepping outside could mean a trip to Minor Injuries for the nurses to scrub all the grit out of her chin and stitch it up! Her sister was sick and fainted at the sight!
Equally, she can is in the highest risk group for Sudden Death in Epilepsy at any time. We go to bed, knowing she could be dead when we wake up! Every day, we wake up, knowing she could die in Status or a drop attack that day (think stairs, escalators, pavements on busy roads, train platforms....) So often, we have seen horrific drop attacks, with her blood over the furniture, the walls, carpet....and we thought she was dead!
It is accepted by Social Services, the CCG, care agencies and specialist epilepsy care providers, it is too stressful for one person to look after her. She needs an on-site medical centre 24/7, trained care staff, audio/video/mattress monitoring all night, onsite consultant neurologists managing her epilepsy - yet it has taken 10 years for all those people to accept this, while we looked after her on our own!
It is known parents are likely to suffer Major Depressive Disorders, Post Traumatic Stress, PTSD, grief and anxiety with a divorce rate of upto 75%! We all have PTSD, and her sister has attempted suicide 22 times in the last 5 years, due developing BPD at all the trauma. We never know if we say the wrong thing to her, if she will go off and attempt suicide again! Her consultant psychiatrist said it was an intolerable situation for any parents to have 2 daughters who could die at any time!
So, yes I do have a fucking clue about life or death responsibility 24/7, where the slightest mistake could cause the death of one of my children - and then we have to go and shout at junior doctors in A & E, who don’t know what they are talking about, that they need to ring up Queen Sq for advice! (As we have been told numerous times by her consultant neurologists, we must do - because they tell us, DD is safer with us than she is in A & E with junior doctors!)