.... but who announces their pregnancy at their cousins wedding!

[flumpybear]

Let's hope it was secretly and not to upstage poor Eugenie!

It's a particularly triggering day for those who have buried an infant and are gearing up to remember that tonight. It's a national event, and those who don't know about it are lucky.

I have lost two babies and had never heard of it until Teacake put it on here.

The limelight reference is the operative term - but not limelight for Eugenie.
Still, I imagine actors think limelight is for solely them given the derivation of the term.

is solely for them

The bitter reference again. How unimaginative.

Maybe Meghan just wanted her husbands family to understand why she was not toasting the happy couple with champagne, not drinking wine with her meal. I’m sure she didn’t take any of the shine from Eugenies big day.

MrsTeacake -
"It's a particularly triggering day for those who have buried an infant and are gearing up to remember that tonight. It's a national event, and those who don't know about it are lucky.

It is great news, but badly timed."

I have lost two babies myself and they are always in my thoughts, I don't need to be "geared up to remember that tonight". I am delighted for Meghan and Harry and to be honest, with my own experience of my first loss at 22 weeks when I was 37, I am just a bit worried they may be tempting fate by announcing their pregnancy too early.

We found out that my brother and his wife were expecting at my wedding.They revealed their fantastic news in the evening to us all and I was nothing but delighted .Cannot understand anybody being otherwise or for that matter upstaged

Can people just do us all a favour, and not take articles in the DM as fact. It’s quite obviously bullshit. There is protocol involved, the Queen and prince Charles would have been told as soon as H&M knew.

Much as I hate to defend the Mail, the BBC are reporting the same thing.

Here we go again with the “real princess” shite.. 🙄

Bad form if it was announced at the wedding but she is American! Whatever happens, she is now set up for life. I think Harry will be a super Father.

Well said, Summer. I really hope MNHQ starts hitting the ban hammer HARD.

I feel like hiding these godawful threads now because it makes me think so crossly that I'm posting alongside such inadequate, pathetic women. It seems that they can't stop themselves from pulling this woman apart. Pitiful, absolutely pitiful.

Let's face it, I'm sure it'd have been spotted that Megan wasn't drinking at the wedding.

The more I read mumsnet the more convinced I am that in no way is in a reflection of real life.

Everyone I know has said it is great news and how happy they are for them. I guess I am lucky that people I know are not as spiteful as some of the posters on here

I'm sure Meghan stormed into the DJ booth during the first dance, grabbed a microphone and screamed "I'm pregnant! You're not getting rid of me now!!!" while Harry sat in the corner weeping.

OR

Harry and Meghan took his dad, stepmum, grandmother and grandfather aside and quietly informed them because it was becoming more obvious and they wanted to tell them in person before they went away on the tour.

Same for me, mydogisbest, it feels sometimes like MN is some sort of 'sink hole' where the dregs go. I really love posting here but seeing what's bubbling under the 'naice' surface, makes me feel sick.

Harry and Meghan took hisdad, stepmum, grandmother and grandfatheraside and quietly informed them because it was becoming more obvious and they wanted to tell them in person before they went away on the tour.

There is no way that they won't already have known. It will be others that will have been told.

I was at the 'ready to announce stage' at the time my younger brother got married. Having the whole family there, would have been a perfect time to let people know (discretely) in person, but I did what decent people do, and didn't say a thing. It was my brother and SIL's day.

I was just over 12 weeks at my sisters wedding and had a bit of a baby bump in my bridesmaids dress so agonised about what to do. Talked to my sister and in the end told family and close friends at the drinks ahead of the pre-wedding meal the night before with her agreement. Then realised on the day that I hadn’t told the grooms daughter (from his previous marriage and 20) and we were all getting ready together so again quick check with my sister and of course I should tell her so I did! Quick hug and back to wedding makeup. I’m sure we confirmed it to a couple more people during the course of the evening of the wedding but it certainly wasn’t an announcement and I sincerely hope my sister didn’t feel it took away from my day.
I have very poorly timed babies, some people found out about my first pregnancy at my dads wake - fortunately it was treated as a bright spot of good news on an otherwise awful day.

Why was she wearing her coat half unbuttoned like that? Would it REALLY not fit closed across her massive baby bump?

“Most sane, reasonable normal people would be delighted to have that news shared at their wedding. Only on MN would this be a massive no go.”

I agree.

“Announcing at a wedding is seriously out of order”

No it isn’t Eliza9917. It really isn’t. Only the most up her arse bridezilla would be offended at the idea. Often weddings are the only time when most of the family are together. I think it is a lovely thing to make a happy announcement on a happy day.

“It’s also the final day of Baby Loss Awareness week”

I didn’t know about this. I’m sure there will have been time constraints on when the announcement could be made, given all the speculation in the media about the pregnancy.

“I think it is pretty sad and worrying that some posters are so bitter that they have to shit all over what is nice news.”

I agree. Well said ChanklyBore. Happy news is indeed happy. And for the record I have had a miscarriage as well.

“Wow. She is a nasty piece of work. I used to like her until she pulled this stunt. What a cow.”

Was that really necessary &WorriesGalore? I think that remark says more about you than it does about her

“Say what you like but this is a really mean thing to do and imo shows what she's really like as a person.”

And @Eliza9917? What mean spirited people you both are

“My husbands cousin did it at ours. I'll never forgive her for it.”

Seriously @Thesnobbymiddleclassone? . Wow, I’m staggered at the level of bridezilladom and self centeredness demonstrated here.

I find the sheer nastiness from some of the posters on this thread very depressing. So much sour grapes and bitterness .

May be she just didn't want all the buttons done up? You can't sit comfy in a fully buttoned coat...

Given the tonne of speculation before it was "announced" I assume it was a press release before the speculation got really annoying- what with it being rather visible given her figure! First working day after being seen in public with suspicious bump, plus possible hasty disappearing acts while on tour - one dignified announcement vs unseemly paparazzi attention plus ongoing speculation...

Bless them. They can't win. I think it was lovely of them to not announce it til after the wedding...
of course it's going to crop up when she asks for water not champers... and of course these things come out st weddings, funerals, bar mitzvah etc, just at time an extended family get together...

There is NO WAY they ‘announced it at the wedding’. There were 1,400 people at that wedding, if they’d announced it at the wedding there is absolutely no way they would have been able to keep a lid on it. Especially given that the Sunday papers would have wanted it and there were several guests well known for leaking like sieves in attendance.

It’s BS.

If you're a tight-knit, happy family then it shouldn't be an issue

No doubt, but I'm not convinced the description applies here if Andrew's remarks about the number of guests are anything to go by ... not to mention Camilla being conspicuous by her absence and much more

Anyone else wondering if Thomas Markle was told or just left to find out from the media?