"Didn't do me/my DC any harm..."

[herewegoagainn]

Does this statement drive anyone else mad?

I find it's usually rolled out when observing someone generally following current health and/or parenting guidelines. I'd love to respond - how do you know?

I'd never dream of blaming someone's health or relationship problems on their own choice of actions because I understand there's so many factors involved but why criticise someone for trying to avoid them by following professional advice?

I fucking hate this.

If you did something like smoke, drink regularly when you were pregnant and there were no lasting effects, it wasn’t because you were clever, it was because you (and your child) were lucky.

I completely understand and I think it depends on the subject as to how well/not so well I take it :’)

If it’s about disciplinary techniques, I was raised by my grandparents and on occasion they would ‘smack’ me or my siblings. It never went further than a smacked bum and hasn’t left any of us feeling particularly affected by it in a negative way, but don’t want to resort to that with my two as when I was a kid, I stopped being afraid of a smacked bum pretty quickly but when my Grandad made me sit in silence, for an hour on my own in the living room I very quickly improved :’)

So when my mum says “oh don’t tell me your in the no-smacking camp” I just let it slide.

But when my MIL tells me to stop singing my 11 mo twins to sleep and let them cry it out I don’t take it so well... so yeah I guess for me it depends on the subject :’)

Ah yes, this reasoning gets my back up. One particular person I knew said "my mum smoked when she was pregnant with me, never did me any harm."

Sure, Susan, apart from your asthma

Great, your kids survived but thousands of babies died of sids so let's not disregard those tragedies
And let’s not blame this on their poor parents, shall we?

@cardibach I'm 100% not blaming the parents! Sorry if it came across that way! My point is, a baby dying is a huge tragedy. The least we can do is try to learn from these tragedies. I think it's disrespectful to parents who lost babies to say "nothing happened to my kids so it's fine" when we know the sleep guidelines have reduced infant deaths