I’m grateful to people who choose not to have children, even if it isn’t totally driven, or at all driven, by selflessness.
I also won’t encourage my children to have children.
I think there is still an expectation that everyone must have children and I think it’s so damaging. Not just to the environment, but also to the children whose parents never really wanted to be parents anyway and who probably wouldn’t enjoy parenthood or be good parents as a result.
There are many reasons not to want children and they’re all perfectly valid, but there are reasons in favour of having children, at a personal and at a societal level. Whether or not the reasons for outweigh the reasons against having children, is quite subjective and personal.
But anyway, the point I’m trying to make is that people need to be aware that there is a clear choice instead of the default expectation being that everyone has to have children and there is no thought given to any possible alternative. I read a lot that younger generations are giving this more thought now. I hope that’s true.
And thank you to the pp who said you don’t blame parents for having children. All too often in these discussions, posters pop up, smugly say they haven’t had children as if they have single handedly saved the planet. It’s an unhelpful oversimplification for one thing and I imagine the reasons they chose not to have children were fairly complicated and personal to them. Not just so they could smugly come on to parenting forums and say words to the effect of, “if you have children you have no right to say you’re worried about the environment, whereas I will have as many cars and take as many flights as I like because I don’t have any children”. What on Earth is anyone trying to achieve with this argument? If you really don’t care because you don’t have children and will be dead by the time the worst effects are felt, do us a favour and don’t bother commenting on threads where people are trying to discuss what positive changes we can make.