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Royal wedding dyslexia

30 replies

loubluee · 12/10/2018 12:02

ITV’s Commentator, regarding Beatrice giving a good reading considering she’s a ‘dyslexic’. I felt uncomfortable with that ‘label’. Surely it should have been ‘considering she has dyslexia’ or something along those lines. AIBU or not?

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MissusGeneHunt · 12/10/2018 12:07

I got called 'a bipolarist' once! Didn't know whether to laugh or cry (ironically!). Vernacular will upset one person and another won't care. Clumsy commentating I think....

PassMeTheHaribosAmego · 12/10/2018 12:10

I thought that too bluee
I'm sure it wasn't meant to offend though

AamdC · 12/10/2018 12:13

My son had aurusm i say hes autistic , individual choiceimo .

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loubluee · 12/10/2018 12:13

I’m bipolar too!! Lol haven’t been called that yet though!

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AamdC · 12/10/2018 12:14

autism *

SassitudeandSparkle · 12/10/2018 12:15

I suspect the same thing was said about James Middleton as well when he did his reading for his sister.

longwayoff · 12/10/2018 12:16

O she's just a princessist

TheDarkPassenger · 12/10/2018 12:18

I’m bipolar/I have bipolar/I suffer from bipolar
Doesn’t matter to me tbh, it doesn’t define me no matter what way it’s said

Might start using bipolarist myselfGrin

I feel like I’ve said bipolar too many times in my head and it now sounds weird

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loubluee · 12/10/2018 12:20

I feel like for me I’m bipolar, it’s part of me, but it’s not the whole of me.

But this is why I asked, it made me uncomfortable, but I don’t know if it’s because I read too much into it. So I’m well prepared to be told I am being unreasonable!

AamdC- good point using the word ‘autisic’, many people who have autism or are parents of children who do, use the term, and it’s a matter of personal choice. It’s another term I don’t use, I tend to say a person has autism, which I appreciate some people won’t like.

I have a feeling I’m going to be overwhelming told I am being unreasonable! Lol

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holycityzoo · 12/10/2018 12:21

I know what you mean I thought the same. It just sounded wrong and a bit insulting.

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loubluee · 12/10/2018 12:23

I just text dp and said do you think I’m a bipolarist?? He replied wtf are you on about? Lol I’m waiting for the next text of have you take your meds?? Lol

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ribblerobble · 12/10/2018 12:23

Diabetic. Autistic. Visually impaired. Some people dislike it, others don't care, but 'has dyslexia' is definitely safer and less insulting for public commentary.

I personally am happy to describe myself as narcoleptic, but understand others find it too labelling.

stayathomegardener · 12/10/2018 12:25

It certainly shows a distinct lack of understanding regarding dyslexia.

I'm dyslexic and am regularly asked to read aloud at weddings/funerals as I do it so well.

I would certainly be a little pissy to have my dyslexia define me or be commented on publicly though.

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loubluee · 12/10/2018 12:28

And just to say I thought Princess Eugenie looked beautiful

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OhLookHeKickedTheBall · 12/10/2018 12:31

I got called 'a bipolarist' once!
That sounds to me like you're anti Bioplar people, I'd be more pissed off with that!

LillianGish · 12/10/2018 12:33

If either Princess had actually read the Great Gatsby from start to finish there is no way that would have been chosen as a reading. I’m thinking now Bea has dyslexia as an excuse, but what was Eugenie thinking of?

Beesandfrogsandfleas · 12/10/2018 12:34

Well as a teacher I would never phrase it that way about a pupil. It did take extra effort for her to be able to do her reading, I think it's always good to hear about people with dyslexia in the public eye and being successful. Poor self esteem can be a big problem for dyslexic children.

longwayoff · 12/10/2018 12:54

Yes Lillian, inappropriate doesn't really cover it. Just wondering how many people said beforehand are you sure you want this? Whole show brought to mind a Gatsby party. Surely someone could have told them.

Neshoma · 12/10/2018 13:09

She has dyslexia , what ever you say she still suffers with it.

Bluntness100 · 12/10/2018 13:12

It was an odd choice of words, I thought so at the time, it's more normal to say she has dyslexia, not she's a dyslexic, but I'm sure no harm was intended and the sentiment was right.

I think it's always important to look at someone's intent as well as the words.

ileclerc · 12/10/2018 14:23

I thought it was a very odd choice of words. Dyslexia doesn't define the person.

JellyBears · 12/10/2018 14:23

Haha tbh she’s probably used to is. As a dyslexic myself I’ve had people say things like “woah you write really well, or OMG you read?” 😂☺️

thisneverendingsummer · 12/10/2018 14:27

No biggie at all. I always hear people with dyslexia being called dyslexic. Can't see the problem tbh.

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loubluee · 12/10/2018 17:17

Yes I’ve heard many people being referee to as dyslexic. But it was the way it was said ‘she is A dyslexic’ that didn’t sit right with me.

I agree with you all, it was more a case of poor choice of words, not intent.

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UnderMajorDomoMinor · 12/10/2018 17:20

Most ppl with dyslexia (like myself) aren’t that fussed/fragile about this. What would have pissed me is the ‘isnt she clever she can read’ patronising tone. Shows a massive misunderstanding of dyslexia.