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To think 10pm is too late to be doing homework?

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williamandlily · 11/10/2018 20:13

DS gets in at 9pm from his after school activities. After dinner and shower. It hits 10pm and he has to get started on homework. Aibu to think this is far too late and he'll need to quit his clubs?

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ThroughThickAndThin01 · 11/10/2018 20:14

How old is he? Every night?

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bandthenjust · 11/10/2018 20:15

I'd quit doing homework Grin is there no other day he can do it on? The homework, not clubs?

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williamandlily · 11/10/2018 20:15

3 days a week. He's 14

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SassitudeandSparkle · 11/10/2018 20:15

Is there no gap between school and the activity?

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PullUpsAreTricky · 11/10/2018 20:15

how old is he? what are his activities, how many nights a week?

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SassitudeandSparkle · 11/10/2018 20:16

He's got another 4 days in the week to do it, then Grin

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JosellaPlayton · 11/10/2018 20:16

How old is he? If he’s 17 then it’s fine, if he’s 11 it’s definitely not ok.

Also what kind of activities is he doing where he’s busy from end of school through to 9pm? That’s a big block of time.

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xyzandabc · 11/10/2018 20:16

Can't he do the homework on the other 4 days?

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SnuggyBuggy · 11/10/2018 20:16

Does he do clubs every night and do they actually fill all the time between finishing school and 9pm? Could he do some work before the clubs start?

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MaisyPops · 11/10/2018 20:17

If he's in that late regularly and can't keep on top of homework then yes he needs to give up a club.
10pm is too late in my opinion.

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williamandlily · 11/10/2018 20:17

Haha no the clubs only run on those days, so unfortunately not. A lot of his homework pieces are due in the next lesson, often being the next day. Sometimes he has bigger pieces but he also has to put a little time into those each day. I think it's too late honestly

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ThroughThickAndThin01 · 11/10/2018 20:17

Is he getting up in the morning ok, and are his grades suffering? I think if yes and no, then it’s ok.

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PullUpsAreTricky · 11/10/2018 20:17

What does he do at the wekend

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ShalomJackie · 11/10/2018 20:18

Can dinner not be ready and waiting and ca the shower not just be a quick one so that he starts at 9.30?

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williamandlily · 11/10/2018 20:18

He doesn't seem to struggle that much with it but I'm sure he must be rushing some pieces and not doing them to his best. He gets up ok.

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5SecondsFromWilding · 11/10/2018 20:19

What clubs does he do? That's a massive chunk of time after school 3 times a week and on the surface of it, it sounds like it gets in the way of his schooling.

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PullUpsAreTricky · 11/10/2018 20:19

what time do the clubs start /finish we need more details

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MakeAHouseAHome · 11/10/2018 20:19

It is certainly too late. Personally I think homework should take priority over those clubs 3 nights a week. So either he finds a SENSIBLE way to do both. Not sure how old he is but because I was so desperate to do my activity/hobby after school I did my homework at lunchtime when I was at school.

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williamandlily · 11/10/2018 20:20

He spends time pissing about in the shower with all kinds of products. Told him to hurry up but he says he needs it long for his muscles after sports -eye roll-

So dinner and shower is usually an hour.

He has a couple of quick breaks in between but usually not long enough to get some work done.

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SuchAToDo · 11/10/2018 20:20

Op if the after school activities are taking up such a large block of time that his only free time for homework is 10pm then maybe he needs to cut back on his after school activities...not give then up entirely but not do them to the extent that he has no free after school time, otherwise he will burn himself out, his schoolwork and grades will start to suffer , and he will be feeling tired during the day at school

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AlexaShutUp · 11/10/2018 20:21

My dd is often out at an activity until 9ish, but she does her homework before she starts. What time does his club begin?

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williamandlily · 11/10/2018 20:21

He does gymnastics which takes up most of the time because he's in a squad. His Saturday Is usually spend doing it too but as "free gym". Sunday's are family days out. He usually does work on these days too though.

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AnotherPidgey · 11/10/2018 20:22

I favoured getting up at 6am to do homework. I was fresh and there's no distractions.

What's he doing between 3:30 and 9? That's not far off from a school day in its own right!

Setting homework for the next day is poor form and usually discouraged. Sometimes it can be tricky to avoid if you have back to back days of the same class and certain lessons fall awkwardly, but good planning should avoid the need for it.

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Chouetted · 11/10/2018 20:22

Meh, at that age I think it's up to him unless it's having obvious side effects on his health. My mother banned me from doing mine at about 4am in the morning, but I could never get a logical reason out of her other than it wasn't "normal" .

From my point of view it made total sense to do it when I was awake and could concentrate, as opposed to late in the evening when I was zonked out from a very long school day. I still love working at that time of day night - it's very peaceful, and I feel like I can do anything I set my mind to.

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user187656748 · 11/10/2018 20:22

he's doing too many weekday activities

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