Just wondering whether I'm the one in the wrong or not in this situation.
Someone close to me has said some very nasty, disturbing and disgusting things about me to someone else close to me whilst they were having an argument. These things are not true and are things that they knew would definitely hurt me if I found out.
Of course the other person has told me to outline how much of a cunt the other one can be.
I have spent the last couple of days reeling and feeling very hurt and confused about why this person would be so awful about me, especially when we get on so well and have a very good bond usually.
It has now come out that these things were only said in order to hurt the someone else (the one who told me), and that they don't actually believe the things they've said about me and that they shouldn't have said them.
They have bollocked the other person for showing me the messages and said it's their fault I am upset as the messages should never have been read by myself.
I have now received a message of apologies saying that they never meant to hurt me, that they care deeply about me and didn't want to cause offence: they only said what they said out of anger in order to piss off the person they were arguing with.
I have not responded to the message nor have I accepted the apology. What they said about me was just too cruel and it opened my eyes to the person that they truly are.
Apparently now because I won't accept the apology it has been said that I am in fact the one being difficult now.
I haven't responded again because I would rather just walk away from that person now and have no kind of relationship with them.
So AIBU? Should I accept the apology and pretend everything is fine or am I right to be stubborn and dig my heels in?