Aibu to let DS miss his only cousin's 1st birthday?

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My DS has just been invited to his only cousin's 1st birthday in 2 weeks. The problem is that we accepted an invitation to another child's birthday a week ago. DS has only known this child for 6 weeks,but I feel like we should be going to that party for the following reasons:

• It's in a soft play, so I know the parents have already paid up £12-15 per head.

-DS is struggling to make friends as he only attends 3 nursery mornings a week. He seems to be missing out on building friendships because most of the other children are F/T. -I've not had an opportunity to meet any other parents as I can only make one pick-up due to work (I know that nursery friendships are usually based on parents knowing each other, so I feel like I'm failing him because I don't know any of the parents.)

WIBU to go to the other party? His cousin will probably only have 1-2 other children at his party, but he is only a year old, so I doubt he'd notice. In-laws will not be happy. They've hired out a hall and everything (but only given everyone 2 weeks notice).

YANBU. A one year old won't notice or care.

Meh go to the soft play party, your dh can go to the cousin’s party. A 1 year old won’t care!

Go to the friends party, much better for your kid.

I'd go to the nursery party. Would be bad form not to, considering you've already accepted the invitation. I also think it sounds like it'd be better for your son if he's struggling to make friends. If the in laws kick up a fuss, it says more about them than you. They should have given more than 2 weeks notice!

Your DS should go to the party which was accepted first, so the nursery party. It's only fair. He can see his cousin another time. Leeds2 makes a good suggestion about your DP attending the cousin's party too.