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Original poster

To REALLY be sitting on my hands re bitchy women and #mentalhealthawarensss day?!

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DiamondMine · 10/10/2018 18:57

Honestly, today I have seen so many women posting all these ‘Be kind, always.’ And ‘It’s okay not to be okay.’ etc memes on social media with the hashtag #mentalhealthawarenessday. And I have REALLY had to bite my tounge as some of these women really are just the bitchiest, horrible women who I know are regularly unkind about or horrible to people!

Has anyone else experienced this today?!

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SpankTheMonkey · 10/10/2018 18:59

YES.

A member of my close family has serious MH issues and has lost most of their friends - people will 'help' as long as it does not inconvenience them......however they will hashtag mental health awareness........post about mental health day

These are the same persons that turned their back on a suicidal person

They can all go fuck themselves

TheBigFatMermaid · 10/10/2018 19:00

No, because I am not friends with bitchy women!

MrsTerryPratchett · 10/10/2018 19:02

I have to sit on my hands when I see women referred to as 'bitchy' constantly.

Surfinbird · 10/10/2018 19:04

@mrsterrypratchett

If it looks like a duck, sounds like a duck and acts like a duck - it’s a duck

Icantbelieveitsnotnutter · 10/10/2018 19:08

SpankTheMonkey Flowers I totally get what you mean.

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DiamondMine · 10/10/2018 19:09

MrsTerryPratchett. Okay, unkind, damning, derogatory. It all adds up to the same. Men can be described as bitchy too!

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Sallystyle · 10/10/2018 19:10

No, I haven't had any of that.

I wouldn't be friends with people I considered bitchy though.

DollyWilde · 10/10/2018 19:10

I do have an enormous problem with a number of people who have treated me like a pariah due to self harm posting about MH awareness. Apparently MH issues are only acceptable if they fit into what these people view as acceptable. And yes, they’re reposting MH awareness posts today. It’s tiring, and I say that as someone who is largely better and hasn’t self harmed for a good couple of years now.

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DiamondMine · 10/10/2018 19:11

And yes, exactly that Spankthemonkey! These people don’t actually give a shit about anyone. They think sharing a meme with some wanky expression and putting a mental health hash tag underneath somehow makes them a kind and compassionate person.

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ghostyslovesheets · 10/10/2018 19:14

nope because I only have people I like on social media - never understood why any does otherwise

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 10/10/2018 19:14

I have a work colleague who does this; always with the 'raising awareness', usually as she's slagging off another colleague. I dread to suspect what she says about me to others, knowing the lies she tells to me...

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DiamondMine · 10/10/2018 19:25

Unfortunately, some of these people (I.e Inlaws/ work colleagues that I have to sit with all day, everyday) I don’t really feel like I can unfriend (though after today I have unfollowed them at least) without causing a load of drama.

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ItLooksABitOff · 10/10/2018 19:29

I'm so glad I'm not on FB. Or Insta. It's bliss.

AuntBeastie · 10/10/2018 19:32

YES. A former colleague of mine is forever posting that shit on her insta when she was famed across the office for being so vicious to the junior members of her team that they were often reduced to tears and had to have the pieces picked up by other people. I can’t believe she could be so self deluded.

Pissedoffdotcom · 10/10/2018 19:39

Shame you can't call them out. It is exceptionally refreshing to realise that certain people have made the decision to 'unfriend' because I have innocently commented how odd it is to be sharing MH awareness posts when they feel that people with depression should just 'suck it up' - it's almost like the trash taking itself out tbh

One2Three4Five6 · 10/10/2018 19:50

My former line manager, made my life absolute hell in general, but she actually used my anxieties against me, posted on FB about mental health and how we should always be kind etc etc blah blah blah...
She is honestly one of the most spiteful people I know, and has bullied many people to the point of leaving.

I had her on FB as the whole 'team' added eachother, but soon deleted her after that particular post, it was so hypocritical.

YorkshirePuddingsGreatestFan · 10/10/2018 19:56

I really hate the "copy and paste this post in honour of all those fighting mental health issues." Ditto cancer and other diseases.

Copying and pasting doesn't help people who are suffering and need help. Actually speaking to them, checking they are ok and offering to help them is what counts.

SussexMedley · 10/10/2018 20:00

Why are you FB friends with them then?

CoughLaughFart · 10/10/2018 20:05

I have to sit on my hands when I see women referred to as 'bitchy' constantly.

There’s always one. That one poster who has to ignore the bitchy behaviour the OP calls out and get on their high horse about the language.

AlmaGeddon · 10/10/2018 20:09

I think it was 1 in 5 adults in Scotland are taking ADs - so with stats like that probably a good few of the bitchy women are having treatment of some sort themselves, or will have done at some point or will have a close family member being treated.

SpankTheMonkey · 10/10/2018 20:16

Posting 'I have to sit on my hands' ....is not sitting on your hands lol

Makethisquick · 10/10/2018 20:18

@SpankTheMonkey - yes! There are so many people who turned their back when our family member needed help. Only too happy to share a # today though.

I'm with you op

Twiggy71 · 10/10/2018 20:24

Two woman i have on fb have put these memes up.
One of them is a kind lady who always tries to treat other's the way she would like to be treated.
The other is a lady who when i was off work for 6 months with depression myself kept in touch and we met up for coffee before i went back to work.
I don't have 100's of friends on fb but who i do have as friends are people i like and respect..

Pissedoffdotcom · 10/10/2018 20:32

I barely use FB anymore. My FB was a direct link to the animal rescue world, so folk on my friends list aren't necessarily actual friends. Turns out tho that even people who go all out to advocate for animals can be complete c**ts to other people...

maddiemookins16mum · 10/10/2018 20:34

Yep, a friend of mine who has suffered MH issues for years posted today about ‘none of us know what others are going through etc’. All very nice, however, only last week she was slating another mutual friend who has been drinking too much recently after starting a new, highly stressful job. I was a bit 🤨

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