AIBU?
To ask if you make a 'big deal' about 1st December?
mumof2sarah · 10/10/2018 13:41
So this year, after having so many years of struggling with my mental health and illnesses I'm excited for Christmas.
I want to make Saturday 1st December a really special day. I'm going to have the tree up and all the baubles lined up ready with the advent calendars and a nice breakfast with Christmas songs on. I literally want to make the most exciting start to December for my girls.
Do you have any traditions or things you always do on 1st December?x
ShatnersWig · 11/10/2018 08:26
No, I don't make a big deal about 1st December. Tree and decorations go up same date each year (14th December) and come down on same date (3rd January). Even if I had kids it would be the same and the only thing I would do differently would be an advent calendar on the 1st December.
OhTheRoses · 11/10/2018 08:27
Very special day. My dad's birthday. He'd be 89 this year.
My DC are grown up now and we start mid December with a family lunch and decorations go up for that. For us that's early enough but if DC were littlies now I guess we'd go earlier if their friends went earlier.
I remember those families who didn't watch itv or have more than one oresent and their parents who got a satsuma and a walnut! Who wants to be a killjoy.
StylishMummy · 11/10/2018 08:36
So much I'm doing wrong but I've already started on the mince pies and Ikea ginger biscuits 
Our tree will be going up on the 1st, I adore the whole Christmas SEASON. We're not religious so pay no heed to the 12 days malarkey. Big, loud and tacky glittery are the 3 words that best describe my Christmas/December
RobotOverlord · 11/10/2018 08:46
That’s my point ThisIs, if people don’t want to focus on it, then don’t and leave it to the people who do. If people do want to start early, then accept that not everyone will and get on with things in your own way.
And I agree, absolutely not rude to state a preference, but IMO it is rude to call people ridiculous or similar for doing something that brings them joy and isn’t hurting anyone else. And the same goes the other way too.
ThisIsTheFirstStep · 11/10/2018 08:49
robot but where has anyone said anything rude?
The OP asked for opinions and experiences. She didn't say 'and if you don't like Christmas, please don't reply as my Christmas feels will be hurt'. She asked what others do, and others replied.
There is an entire Christmas topic. If you want to discuss it, why not post there? So that those of us who are sick of Christmas when it's not even Halloween yet can easily hide it.
ProfessorMoody · 11/10/2018 08:55
where has anyone said anything rude
Someone said "North Pole breakfasts, "1st december boxes" and elf on his fucking shelf can piss right off. Total nonsense."
There is an entire Christmas topic. If you want to discuss it, why not post there
Because it's an AIBU.
those of us who are sick of Christmas when it's not even Halloween yet can easily hide it
Has nobody told you that you don't have to read every thread on Mumsnet?
ThisIsTheFirstStep · 11/10/2018 09:00
moody Nope, no one has ever told me that, no one has ever told me I can't comment on threads that catch my eye either though.
To many of us it IS nonsense. How is it rude to say that? I find it rude to have Christmas rammed in my face 24/7 for three months of the year.
And yes, perhaps it's an AIBU, then, 1. expect people to say yes, YABU, that's kind of the point and 2. there is no law that says you can't post an AIBU type question in the Christmas topic.
MinaPaws · 11/10/2018 09:12
I love advent because it really focusses the mind away from the shrinking daylight, the cold weather and the sluggish feeling of wanting to hibernate. It fills the dreariest time of the year with lights and candles, music, excitement, generosity and fun activitis. I love making the puddings, cakes and mince pies, planning the menus, buying the stocking fillers, stroking reindeer at the local farm, choosing a decoration each with DC,going to Christmas carol concerts and shows. All this is the run up to Christmas. The week tiself is a lot more stressful - full of grumpy, mad, demanding elderly relatives on my side or sweet but fussy elderly relatives on DH's side. The day itself is a heavy day in the kitchen. And the aftermath is sluggish with booze and food. But the slow, gentle month's prep is just brilliant. I love it.
ProfessorMoody · 11/10/2018 09:13
Why on earth would you want to comment on a thread that doesn't interest you, or that you don't want to see? How bizarre 
I suppose the difference is that a lot of people find certain things nonsense. Me - religion, alcohol and fashion. However, most of us aren't rude enough to go onto a thread that someone has posted because they love something, and actually tell them that its nonsense.
Some of us actually have respect for others 
ThisIsTheFirstStep · 11/10/2018 09:15
moody Wow. Are you sure you have respect for others with that snippy, high-handed comment? Doesn't sound like it.
The question was do you make a big deal of December 1st. My answer was no.
That, in my opinion, is kind of the point of AIBU. People ask questions and then debate it. There is nothing wrong with that. If you're going to get hurt over people not sharing your Christmas joy, then don't ask the question.
ProfessorMoody · 11/10/2018 09:26
I have respect for those that respect others, yes.
Oh, I'm not hurt.
You asked where had anyone said anything rude, so I pointed it out and said it was unnecessary. You're right, it is AIBU, not shall I swear at others because they enjoy something I don't.
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