what has aibu taught you?

[ambereeree]

For me its always say no to a favour otherwise you'll end up asking if that person is a cf when you've been taken advantage of.

to not be unreasonable

Satsuma. The table! What? That upsets people? Why?

It's taught me how to better check my feelings-I sometimes try to work out how I'd describe certain situations and the response I'd get...yes, iabu. It's easy to get in a twist, especially when you're on your own with a baby. It's really useful to have a balance even if I am too wary to ever post

people who, in their posts, are essentially describing an entirely imaginary self with more success, better boundaries, and stronger ethics.

How do you know Dolores?

You might assume that their ethical assertions are false because they aren’t they same as yours, your family’s or friends’ - that doesn’t mean you are right though.

AIBU has taught me that if I persevere, I will laugh at least 4 times a day at others posts.

Ohyesiam you beat me to it.

I have also learned just what trivial issues people get themselves into such a state over. Step back and engage gear, a lot of the 'problems' would then be solved.

That Penguin Bollards are offered as the answer to all car parking issues at home
That some people have vile neighbours that are getting away with it
That there is massive frustration if stories don't get updated by OP's
That it's rare to have a problem someone else hasn't already had
That too many people suggest 'autistic spectrum disorder' as a likely reason for unreasonable and objectionable behaviour
That there are some seriously weird people out there who appear to think trolling is a good way to spend your time
That some journalists are incredibly lazy, plundering mumsnet for their stories

That there is always a better topic to post in than AIBU if you want some decent advice.

That so many people don’t work through a problem they just ask on AIBU

That anonymity encourages some people to be nasty

That most MILs are the devil

That we can’t object to our partners hobbies as that is controlling

That applying make up takes 2 minutes, a load of washing 3 minutes and the bathroom can be cleaned in less than 10

That no one should expect help from their parents or parents in law but their partners / husbands should be all singing and dancing and any shortcomings should not be tolerated because women carry the mental load

How to decifer a plethora of acronyms

Have to say i thought i had vile neighbours until i read some of the aibu posts.
Longwayoff some posts make me howl.

That becoming a SAHM is a terrible decision for most women. And this:

That a genuinely horrific number of women are putting up with the most incredibly shitty behaviour from their male partners.

Being a SAHM is what it is. I don't like the way posters try to dress it up and add loads of extras like i do all the admin.
I never thought it was looked down upon until aibu. Its just a choice for your family right?

It's taught me that there are many more types of arsehole than I realised. I often think, if only I'd been on Mumsnet a few years ago, I would have recognised my own personal arsehole a mile off. He wasn't special, he was just a particular breed of arsehole I hadn't encountered before.

Yes I agree Suck. Mumsnet often opens your eyes on abusive behaviour that you viewed as normal.

Mumsnet often opens your eyes on abusive behaviour that you viewed as normal.

Does it ever make women question their own behaviour? Is it really always the male's fault?
MN makes me question how I ever managed to raise two children and do a degree to relieve the boredom.

That there are some really nasty, unpleasant narrow minded people on mumsnst..

That the world is full of spiteful cunts who care waaaaaaaaaaay too much about proper grammar.

Oh wait I knew all that already. 😂

AIBU has taught me that - relatively - I am a reasonable, logical, sane and pragmatic person.

That women and men are a lot more similar than I thought. I used to think men were all a bit nutty and weird and women more rational and emotional, but.. now I see we're all as good and bad as each other.

A post in AIBU usually results in the OP being unreasonable in most cases.. well the ones that are genuinely asking the questions. The rest know that they are definitely not BU but just want to talk about what someone else has done...

That MILs are despised and tolerated by about 90% of the mumsnet population .... and that if the child in my belly is a boy this is what I have to look forward to in my future!

I reply ‘No’ around 70% of the time. The remaining 30% of my replies tend to be ‘No,but . .’
Thought for a second that this had taught me most ops are just looking for affirmation of their reasonableness.
Then realised I tend to reply far more readily when I agree with an op’s position. Quicker to reply.
Saying someone IBU takes more thought to avoid being rude and takes longer to type.
TLDR I am lazy.

It's taught me that there are many more types of arsehole than I realised. I often think, if only I'd been on Mumsnet a few years ago, I would have recognised my own personal arsehole a mile off. He wasn't special, he was just a particular breed of arsehole I hadn't encountered before.

^^ this is absolutely brilliant^^^ suckmasterburstingfoam