Some of my contemporaries are now getting large inheritances. It's all very well saying, "Oh, well, I'd rather have the person here," but I'm talking about elderly people dying, not losing people before their time. One person I know has just inherited £1.5m. Her dm had a house in a London suburb, just an ordinary house really, bought in the 1960s for 50p or thereabouts. Another person has just bought her dcs a flat each with the proceeds of two relatives' houses. Envious? Nah, not me... (growling that dh and I have no Great Expectations).
I think it’s fair enough to be envious of people who’ve been left money in an inheritance, it makes life so much easier. When I lost my mum when I was in my early twenties she had nothing so I really really struggled financially to scrape up the money for her funeral and a headstone, but I found most people assumed that losing her would mean I’d inherit at least something.
Most people I think who lose a loved one end up with no inheritance at all, the death can mean a financial strain due to having to find money for funerals, having one less income in the house, and it’s absolutely horrible trying to grieve while stressing about money, being unable to have any time off work if you don’t have sick pay etc.
I am totally unashamedly envious of those who lost parents or grandparents or uncles and aunts and ended up with a windfall. While it’s awful to be bereaved, the financial freedom and lack of stress that comes from an inheritance is a humongous gift that I don’t think many people really appreciate. It’s okay to acknowledge that. I know most people say they’d give it all back to have the person back, which I’m sure is true, but you can’t deny that having that money is incredibly lucky when so many people lose loved ones and have to deal with the financial consequences and stress too.