To want to cave DH's face in with hammer every time he snores!

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That's it really.

Do I need to drill a hole in his head to make the air escape more quietly

This is my life at the moment! I'm not sure if he's always done it and I was sleeping better and not noticing or if it's a recent thing. I'm not even subtle anymore I will poke him, roll him over, he never remembers any of it in the morning! Last night I went to bed about ten thirty, woke up at twelve due to the snoring, and again at two same reason, then at three the cat decided to have a mad ten minutes tearing around the house, the snoring kicked in again while the cat was on his shenanigans. Got back to sleep around half three, snoring some me again at half four and just would not stop, by five fifteen I'd given up and gone to the spare room, eventually back to sleep around 5:45 alarm went off at seven DH had not do much as stirred throughout. Had to wake DH at eight as we had an urgent scan at the hospital this morning and had to leave by nine. Got into the car and he says he's tired as he didn't sleep well!!!!! I could've actually killed him.

Sorry to laugh but that’s just made me snort with laughter. Same here but 3 awful nights with man flu has doubled the pain.
The good morning darling.......
What’s up with you? when a hhmmmph response, really does not help.

Oh don't.... I have laid awake many a night and genuinely considered ways to kill him just to get some sleep!!!! When we move into the new house almost number 1 priority is a double bed in the spare room.

Mr Noodle and I both snore - I don't seem to be bothered by him so happily stay in bed leaving him to it, but he will toss and turn and wake me up when I snore and eventually huff off to the living room where he sleeps on the floor as our new sofa is lost in the post.

I honestly feel awful when I wake him with my snoring, I imagine your husband does too!

Oh it’s intolerable! Separate rooms is the only solution!!

YANBU.

My DP also does this, but with increasing ferocity until it sounds like he's struggling to get any air in at all, at which point I panic and give him a hard kick to the shins, you know, just to ensure he doesn't actually die.

He's also very recently taken to sleeping with one arm above his head, and then once in a very deep sleep losing control of this arm until it slips down the pillow and he rests it very gently on my forehead. It's really fucking annoying

A fork kept under the pillow works wonders.
Tried and tested.

I feel your pain. I adore DH during the day. Which is why I haven't smothered him.

I am amazed our neighbours haven't complained tbh

Separate rooms. All the way. Although if you can still hear him through the walls you may need to LTB

dandy

Would a pitchfork do april?

The fork sounds a good idea. I do know where I can prod him enough to make him move but not really enough to wake him properly.

It used to be worse, when dc3 was in our bed I would have them both snoring.

You all know that snoring can be indicative of a health issue, some serious? Your dear husbands need to get to their GP pronto -
and ask for a referral for a sleep study if the ladder of interventions is fruitless.

Please don't put up with it.

A pillow held tightly over their face is my choice of weapon...

That or a swift backwards heel kick to the small of their back

@Danybelle please make your OH see a GP asap - nobody should be struggling for breath while sleeping.

Try
Loosing weight
Propping him up more on the pillows (not sleeping flat)
Check up with GP

Otherwise, separate rooms all the way. Lack of sleep is rarely amusing in the small hours.

Lack of sleep isn't amusing.

But neither is failing to recognise that the snorer isn't in control of their snoring. OK pillory them for not seeking/following medical advice, and try to get them to try every self-help tip under the sun.

But at the end of the day, they are no more in control of it that your bed-wetting DC is in control of their enuresis. And you just have to, earn to live with it, and make the changes that minimise the burden whtyer that's earplugs/separate room for the one, and alarm and better tumble-dryer for the other.

@Roseandrose

I think just because someone 'can't help it,' that doesn't make it any less frustrating and annoying for the person on the receiving end. I know someone who has a toddler who hits her and bites her... he isn't doing it deliberately, and he 'can't help it' but she is is still entitled to be utterly fucked off with it.

Having a snoring partner is utterly horrendous. Sleep deprivation is a form of torture, and it can make you very ill. Physically AND mentally.

No-one should have to tolerate it. Definitely separate bedrooms if you can do that. If not, the snoring partner (usually the man) can sleep on the couch.

HE is the one who needs to get help. The onus is not on his wife/partner to get help for him. If he can't be bothered to get help, then he sleeps on the couch!

Good point neverending wtf am I the one in the spare room (but not an option while on holiday unfortunately!) when it's DH with the problem. Down to weight and drinking undoubtably.

I am the snorer.. DH gets really fucking huffy with me to the point of waking me up and making me cry by pulling blankets off and digging me. We have no spare room so I g to the uncomfortable couch. And normally have a bad night's sleep I have been to GP, she has said previously it's my sinuses. I do nasal sprays etc. But I genuinely can't help it. Sometimes I feel uncomfortable falling asleep as I know DH will be annoyed if I snore. It's made me feel really unwelcome in our bed. Also DH refuses to wear earplugs. I know it's annoying but he isn't doing it purposefully. Maybe suggest gp.

@BlueBug45 I have tried, a hundred times. I've video'd him so he can see the extent of it so he knows I'm not making it up. He just won't go

@Dandybelle

@IdaDown not all snorers are overweight/obese. One skinny relation told me that he snored, and I discovered on the postnatal he isn't as rare as I first thought.

Drilling a hole in his head will do no good at all, it will just make you feel better.

Try a tracheotomy instead.

I'm in the spare room too because one more night of snoring will result in a conviction for me. I cannot bear it. Last week we stayed at my parents' for two nights and I slept for about 3 hours total. I can't wear earplugs (toddler DS occasionally wakes in the night, DH of course doesn't hear) and he refuses any self help or to see the GP- but is all sulky about the fact I've moved into the spare room!

@BlueBug - I know. It’s just a simple place to start to try and fix the problem.

i’m The snorer in our house, not consistently but when really tired or tipsy. My DPncan be hideously nasty about it, name calling, screaming at me, shoving. I’m embarrassed/ashamed/ tired. Losing weight but that’s a longer term ‘solution’ and i’m not sure it’ll work.