So it's not so much an 'am I being unreasonable' as an 'is he being unreasonable?'.
Mil and fil have been happily (so we thought) married for over 40 years.
Fil has seemed very very unhappy lately, DH and I had put that down to the fact that he works long hours, 6 or 7 days a week. In a very physically demanding job.
He recently was the focus of an article in a magazine and an old friend (female) contacted him off the back of it. They've been writing letters.
This week he's announced he's going off for the weekend to help her pack away her camp for the winter. Without mil.
This may not seem strange to some but in the 8 years I've known them, I've not known them to do a trip more than go to the local store without each other. Whenever they go 'in to town' (we live very very remotely) they go together.
So we (me, Dh and sil) all thought it was odd.
Dh speaks to his Mum today and she's really upset. She'd told him she didn't feel comfortable with him going without her.
I'm sure there will be different schools of thought on this, as someone who is still very good friends with an ex and still sees them I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing. But I see this ex WITH Dh, our ds and his wife and dc. I think Dh would have a dim view of me buffering off for a weekend alone with him.
And really, if mil didn't want him to go, it's really a bit shit of him to go ahead and leave her upset right?
Sil has gone nuclear and gotten fully involved (also unsurprisingly making it all about her and shrieking about it will impact her if they divorce ).
Would all of you be ok with your significant others doing this? Or are we all being a little pearl clutchy?
I'm not getting involved, neither is Dh really, he's just gone over so mil can have a good cry.
I feel like if I told Dh I had an issue with him going off to spend a weekend alone with another woman and he went, I'd be seriously questioning our relationship. Or am i not being a 'cool wife'?
Much as I find my mil hard to deal with, (she's the one that refused to help me or have ds when I had a burst ovarian cyst a couple of years back I posted about) I do feel sorry for her, it's blindsided her I think!
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glagdy · 06/10/2018 16:06
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