To be annoyed that the baby chooses today to get poorly?

[QueenofmyPrinces]

I have two boys, a 4 year old who has just started school and a 14 month old.

Life has been hard over the last few months, mainly because the 14 month old is a nightmare sleeper and I only get about 5 hours broken sleep a night, and also because I’ve gone back to work and I’m a nurse with long shifts. I’m pretty exhausted most of the time.

Anyhow - a few weeks ago my lovely DH surprised me with the news he’d booked me a room for this weekend in a cottage-type B&B so I can hide away, enjoy the silence, get some rest and most importantly have an uninterrupted night’s sleep.

I’m due to check in tomorrow at 11am and it’s been arranged for about three weeks. I’ve been looking forward to it so much and I’ve got it all planned out how I’m going to spend my precious me-time.

However, about three days ago the 14 month old started with a terrible cough and last night I had an horrendous night with him in that he was up crying, coughing and having temperatures.

Today he’s been vomiting constantly, can’t keep anything down apart from breast milk and is having diarrhoea and continued temperatures.

Why does this have to happen now?

I know it means I’m not going to be able to go to the B&B tomorrow now and I’m so disappointed.

When he’s ill he just wants me, I haven’t been able to put him down all day and seeing as the only thing he can tolerate is breast milk it’s not like I can go anywhere.

I know it’s not his fault and I hate seeing him poorly but I just feel so, so disheartened that it’s happened now.

All I wanted was a rest

Oh gosh enjoy the headspace, writing and sleeping. You are only 15 mins away, and your DH sounds amazing, I'm sure he will be fine and will make a judgement call if he does think your baby needs you/milk.

You sound like you have a lovely supportive DH who is right when he says he is more than capable. What is worse is a tired, run down mum who hasn't had a chance to recharge in a long time. I get about one day and one night off to myself every four months to half a year or so, and by God by that point do I need it - I am worse as a mother (like you I only get about 5 broken hours sleep a night, though you work long hard shifts too so you must be beyond exhautsed) without some respite to myself. Your LO will be fine, and as your DH says he can come to you if needs be x

What a lovely husband you have. I hope you have a wonderful time, and don't feel guilty!

Go. You have to think of your own mental health then you can be a better mother for him. You are nearby so can come home if an emergency which there won't be

I agree with pp that you should definitely go and more importantly, use the time there very well. Don't spend the time away worrying about the baby. Trust that your dh will let you know if anything comes up. Enjoy

please go

You poor thing. Going back to work with a terrible sleeper is a form of torture

I hope that you have a lovely weekend, your husband sounds so lovely! Enjoy a rest and enjoy writing!

BTW what a wonderful role model your sons have.

I’m hoping here and ready to write with a beautiful view of lots of wonderful trees and shrubs and their autumnal colours.

It’s idyllic here.

Enjoy every minute and and let your thoughts run free x

I feel amazing!!! Im lying on the bed with a cup of tea and watching The X Factor! It’s heaven!

And the best news is that my son has managed to have some banana bread and keep it down.

It’s pouring it down with rain outside and I’m loving listening to the raindrops hit against the window panes whist I’m all warm and snug inside.

I feel a million miles away from home and it’s the most relaxed I’ve felt in God knows how long. I’ve told my husband I’m never coming home.

I’m so glad I came - thank you everyone for telling me to do it!

lovely update, lovely family all round. This thread is a great antidote to Relationships board!

I’d still go if it was me. Your husband has said it’s still ok to go. He sounds capable to be able to manage.

Go, and enjoy your me time. You deserve it.

So glad you went. Your husband is a keeper and the kids will be fine. Enjoy your R&R

Lovely thread and great outcome, another one who thinks you've got a wonderful DH.

Hope the writing's going well.

Enjoy!

So glad to read your update, enjoy OP! You deserve it. Your DS will be fine.

Thanks everyone!

I’m lying on the bed in my pyjamas still writing my story and I’m still super relaxed.

I’ve just rang home and the 14 month old is has had some hash browns at tea time (classy) and hasn’t been sick and is drinking lots of water.

I’m just going to finish my current chapter and then heat up and eat my dinner before taking a bath

What a lovely husband you have.

Enjoy the rest of your break and sleeping in a bed all to yourself!

Your DH is amazing. I'm so glad you went

I’m glad I came too

I’ve managed to write another 6’000 words to my novel so I’m happy with that.

I’m super tired but I don’t want to go to sleep because when I wake up I have to go back home

So glad you went . Your dh sounds lovely . Does he have a single brother?

Enjoy your evening and sleep 😴

He has a brother but he’s a bit of a dick and they don’t get on at all. Sorry

Glad you had a great time OP never feel guilty for time for self care , it’s so important as a parent . I too have a lovely husband like this , he batch cooked for us when I gave birth and does night feeds while working and books nice things for me ,
I try do nice things for him too , makes for a happy family , you tend to hear about all the crap partners instead of the good ones .