To be annoyed that the baby chooses today to get poorly?

[QueenofmyPrinces]

I have two boys, a 4 year old who has just started school and a 14 month old.

Life has been hard over the last few months, mainly because the 14 month old is a nightmare sleeper and I only get about 5 hours broken sleep a night, and also because I’ve gone back to work and I’m a nurse with long shifts. I’m pretty exhausted most of the time.

Anyhow - a few weeks ago my lovely DH surprised me with the news he’d booked me a room for this weekend in a cottage-type B&B so I can hide away, enjoy the silence, get some rest and most importantly have an uninterrupted night’s sleep.

I’m due to check in tomorrow at 11am and it’s been arranged for about three weeks. I’ve been looking forward to it so much and I’ve got it all planned out how I’m going to spend my precious me-time.

However, about three days ago the 14 month old started with a terrible cough and last night I had an horrendous night with him in that he was up crying, coughing and having temperatures.

Today he’s been vomiting constantly, can’t keep anything down apart from breast milk and is having diarrhoea and continued temperatures.

Why does this have to happen now?

I know it means I’m not going to be able to go to the B&B tomorrow now and I’m so disappointed.

When he’s ill he just wants me, I haven’t been able to put him down all day and seeing as the only thing he can tolerate is breast milk it’s not like I can go anywhere.

I know it’s not his fault and I hate seeing him poorly but I just feel so, so disheartened that it’s happened now.

All I wanted was a rest

GO GO GO you are only 15 mins away and can easily pop back if things get really bad.

Go and enjoy, you can always come back if things take a turn. Your DH sounds lovely.

A couple of posters seem to have real print understanding nuances of the written word. 😂

I'd go OP. You're not far away. Headspace is so important.

Go and have a break! Your husband sounds absolutely lovely. 15 minutes away is super close. You sound absolutely burnt out, go and have a rest

Your husband is a keeper (but you knew that). Bloody refreshing to read about a good one on here.

Go!!

Omg, GO. He'll be fine. Just go.
Mine do that, too. Time injuries and illnesses to coincide with much needed breaks. I obviously know it just seems like that, but it's so disappointing! But he's on the road to recovery so seriously, don't be a martyr. Go!

your husband sounds fantastic :)

go. rest. your son will be fine.

Go! Please do!! Rest and recharge! You can't pour from an empty cup, as they say.

Just go it will be amazing , I’m a nurse too and I’d bite someone’s hand off for a peaceful night like that , don’t feel guilty babies are always clingy and it’s only one night . You can always get husband to bring him if he’s in desperate need .

I’m another one voting for you to go ☺️ Sounds like he is much better today and it will do you both good for you to have a rest and a proper relax!

Right, I’m packing my bags.

I just handed DS over to my husband and he started crying and reaching his arms out to me

He’s had a good 15 minute breast feed and no vomiting as yet.

Sounds good OP. Your DH sounds very lovely and capable, you aren't far away if you're needed and you deserve a break! I hope you enjoy and can relax x

That's bloody typical! Narcissistic egocentric little shit has been lying in his cot plotting this (lighthearted, before I get flamed!).
Only you and DH can decide what's best, going on the situation at the time, but I sympathise. Your DH sounds lovely, and sometimes, just knowing he WANTED you to have that break can be nearly as good as actually having it. If you do go; enjoy yourself. If you don't, just get chocolate, a glossy mag and a takeaway for tonight and remember that you will laugh at this in the future!

Just go. Your husband sounds amazingly supportive and I'm sure DS will be fine once you've left.
You'll only be 15mins away.

Your DH sounds lovely. Just go. You're 15 mins away and you need a break. I think mums feel like they're often not entitled to some time for them but you really are.

Go get a good rest and then you'll be recharged for tomorrow

Please make every effort to go on your break, even if you get there in time for a long relaxing soak in a bath to sleep in a bed with loads of space & no interruptions.

Is your overnight bag already packed & by the door? I hope so.
Once infant is stable, pick up your bag & be gone.

Were this a work day you’d have to grit your teeth & get out on time, so use that determination to your benefit to do something for your wellbeing.

Your DH is a

Your DH sounds amazing. And you sound like you’re a great mum. Go!! It’s 15 min away. Part of being a great mum is looking after yourself so you can keep doing it day in, day out, week after week, month after month. A one night break sounds good.

In your situation I’d go and I’m thgoing biggest soft touch going!

I’ve just packed, it took me forever!!

He’s really eager for me to go because I love to write and I never get a chance to at home. When I was having a rough time a few months ago where I felt lost and nothing but a mother he bought me an online novel writing course which consists of modules and teachings about how to write the perfect novel with professional guidance etc and it was amazing. I made a fantastic start on it and my novel was coming along nicely but then I went back to work and I just haven’t had a chance to look at it for months. He knows I love to write and that’s another big part of the reason he’s done this, so I can have 24 hours of uninterrupted writing time. To be honest I’ve been more excited about getting the chance to do that than I have about getting a good nights sleep.

I’ve just text him because he’s downstairs and it’s all gone quiet to ask if I should come in and say goodbye but he said not as DS is asleep on his chest.

I just need to keep telling myself that everything is going to be fine and being 15 minutes away is hardly a big deal...

Bless your dh. If he is happy to deal with your son then I would still go.

Just seen your update. Hope you're on your way, your dh sounds capable so please try not to worry about any of them. If his temp is back down to normal that's a very positive sign. I have a v clingy (when I'm around) young son but he copes fine with either his dad or my parents. It's when I am also in the equation that he's difficult.

Have a lovely weekend. Baby sounds fine now and even if he isn’t he is with his dad who loves him and will look after him.
Kids are absolute bastards for choosing the worst possible time to get ill.
We recently drove for 4 hours to go to a wedding, spent 30 minutes there and DD developed a raging temperature and sore throat and poor DH had to go back to the hotel room and sit with her all night on his own. Little sod was fine in the morning .

Just want to say your DH sounds lovely! A nice change on here!

Your husband is LOVELY!!! You son will be fine. Enjoy your overnight adventure.

I would totally go, and I would also creep out so the baby didn't see me leaving and cry.

I would also ignore any "you're a mummy get on with it" posts urging you to be a martyr at the risk of your own health.

It's that old clichè about putting your own oxygen mask on first. Your DH sounds very kind and is just as much a parent as you are.

I really hope you go and have a wonderful time to recharge and relax.