To think NDN are CF are refuse to take anymore parcels

[JustOneApple]

We take in quite a few parcels for NDN. Some of them are smallish but others are quite big and take up a bit of room on our table.

I don't have any issues taking in parcels for neighbours but these wind me up so much.

They don't answer the door when I go round to drop them off, ever. Even when I can quite clearly see and hear that they are in. I try about 4 times before leaving them at the back door where I see that they are taken inside after a couple of hours.

I hate doing this as I worry that it will rain or they will be stolen and I'll get the grief from them for it but it really grates on me that they are so rude as to not answer the door when I've done them a favour by taking in their parcels! Most of which end up taking up room in my house for days before I get fed up of being ignored and leave them outside.

I'm going to start refusing to take them in but I hate confrontation and don't want to cause bad feelings but it really annoys me! Is it just me or is this pretty cheeky?!

They get notes through the door so they know I have them and never come round for them themselves.

When I say I try 4 times, I mean I take them back to my house and then try again the next day or in a couple of hours.

Just refuse them. You're under no obligation.

Don't take any more in. If they don't come round to collect them & don't answer when you go round with them they can't be desperate for them. Therefore they can wait until the courier turns up when they are there or go pick them up from the depot. Their problem not yours.

Refuse to take any more parcels. They're acting like THEY are doing you the favour instead of what it really is.

Don't take them in.

Absolutely refuse them. If they wont even answer the door to you HAND DELIVERING TO THEM then they don't deserve a second more of your time.

It’s not confrontation to not take them in. They won’t even know yountefused to.

Some people take the piss. Say no from now on OP.

Nope, I’d stop taking them in as well.

Otherwise your house will turn into a sorting office in the run up to Christmas and you’ll get zero thanks for it

Grrr you refused to.

I wouldn't take them in at all now.

Neighbourliness works two ways. They're taking the piss so no more neighbourly behaviour for them.

Jeepers, hell no to this! Are they out when they’re delivered? I absolutely would not take another delivery on their behalf.

Good, so they won't be informed that a neighbor refused to accept? Probably a stupid question but I get anxiety about these sorts of situations!

If you can tell/see that they are at home and ignoring the doorbell why the hell don't you just leave it on the doorstep? Fuck going back and forth!

As for not causing bad feelings - they have caused the bad feelings by behaving like arseholes.

Do not accept any more parcels.

"I can't accept your parcels any more."

"You'll have to make other arrangements."

"You have been taking the piss so i refuse to help you any more."

"I'm not interested in your argument/problem. I will not accept parcels for you."

"Get. Orf. Moi. Land!"

• do not say 'sorry, but...' in any of your dealings. Short, precise, blunt, shut the door.

Agree, stop taking their parcels in.

And it’s not confrontational to refuse. For all your neighbours know you could have been out when the parcels are delivered. It’s not like the delivery driver is going to write “justoneapple refused to take this parcel for you” on the label, is it?

No cos it could just be you're not in anyway

I stopped taking parcels in for a neighbour as they would never answer the door when I went over with it and then when I gave up and left it in my house they eventually came over and got pissy with me and asked why I didn't bring it over or try again, I informed them I wasnt royal mail or a delivery company and if they wanted their parcels they needed to come and get them !, I refused to accept them anymore

Compromise to avoid confrontation and only accept tiny parcels ,wait for them to knock on the door and only answer on their 4th go.

We have two neighbours we'll take parcels for and one we won't. Because they're bastards. I doubt they have any idea that we turn them away.

I wouldn't have taken any after the first time they failed to even ask for it as soon as they got home.

Never mind several times of going to deliver it to them.

Find your inner assertiveness.

No, JustOne, the card will just say that their parcel is at whichever delivery office.

My ndn were exactly like this. Never came to collect them, or answered the door when I chapped with them. Now, I refuse to accept their parcels by telling the delivery driver, "no, because they're bloody oddballs." Seems to have done the trick.

Ask them for a mobile number and text them to say you have a parcel for them and to please come and pick it up.

Then you don't need to do anything. If they refuse just say well, in that case I'm going to have to stop taking them in for you, please make other arrangements.