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To think NDN are CF are refuse to take anymore parcels

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JustOneApple · 05/10/2018 12:16

We take in quite a few parcels for NDN. Some of them are smallish but others are quite big and take up a bit of room on our table.

I don't have any issues taking in parcels for neighbours but these wind me up so much.

They don't answer the door when I go round to drop them off, ever. Even when I can quite clearly see and hear that they are in. I try about 4 times before leaving them at the back door where I see that they are taken inside after a couple of hours.

I hate doing this as I worry that it will rain or they will be stolen and I'll get the grief from them for it but it really grates on me that they are so rude as to not answer the door when I've done them a favour by taking in their parcels! Most of which end up taking up room in my house for days before I get fed up of being ignored and leave them outside.

I'm going to start refusing to take them in but I hate confrontation and don't want to cause bad feelings but it really annoys me! Is it just me or is this pretty cheeky?!

They get notes through the door so they know I have them and never come round for them themselves.

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thenightsky · 05/10/2018 12:41

How weird that they won't answer their door. Perhaps they are doing the same when the delivery person knocks too.

Don't take any more in for them.

blueshoes · 05/10/2018 12:43

This is quite a no brainer. You are well within your rights.

LeftRightCentre · 05/10/2018 12:44

Please see a doctor if your anxiety is such that you're getting yourself wound up over people who treat you like something on the bottom of your shoe.

Refuse to take the parcels.

VanGoghsDog · 05/10/2018 12:46

I wish one of my neighbours would stop taking parcels for me, he's so annoying!

I've asked every delivery driver and the postie not to leave things with him but they say he pops up and offers to take them and they find it hard to say 'she told us not to'.

I get home from work on my work days about 7.30pm. By this time NDN has locked up his house and locked his front gate so there is no way to get to his front door to ring his bell. So, I can't go and get my parcel though I do always try, but I can't get past his gate (I've asked him about this and he says his wife insists he locks up - I've never seen this wife in the flesh).
So, he thinks he knows what time I get home from work so sometimes (not always) he comes around about 8pm to give me the parcel, which is fine except my days and hours are really not as predictable as he thinks they are, so sometimes I've waited ages to get something I wanted to deal with. Or I'm actually away overnight.

Other times he waits til the postie is gone, then comes round and leaves the parcel by my front door, which the postie could have done himself - as a result of this I have had a number of soggy parcels and it's only a matter of time before one gets nicked.

I wish he'd just butt out!

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JustOneApple · 05/10/2018 12:47

Our next door neighbor on the otherside has told me before that they are quite strange. She's lived there a lot longer than us and has only seen them leave their house once or twice. When we moved in we swore for months it was empty because the door had cobwebs all over it and looked like it hadn't been used for years, then we started seeing windows being opened in summer etc... So knew they were there.

It sounds daft but I've been through depression recently which has caused my anxiety to go through the roof. My home is my safe place and I get really panicked thinking about arguing with neighbors etc... I had a note left on my car not long ago asking me to move closer to the one in front so more people could park and I couldn't sleep for days because of it.

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steppemum · 05/10/2018 12:47

Obviously it is no problem to refuse to accept.

But for what it is worth, I take in loads of parcels for neighbours, but I never deliver them
I always say to the person dropping off, please put a card through their door so that they come to me, and I don[t have to go to them. Then the parcel just sits on my shoe rack until they come.

But then all of my neighbours are nice and come the same evening to get them. But I couldn't be doing with chasing round trying to deliver.

AnneTisocial · 05/10/2018 12:56

Don't take any parcels in. Don't answer the door if NDN knocks (sounds like they won't anyway). If they don't answer the door why should you??

JuliaJaynes9 · 05/10/2018 13:01

Just decline to take any more parcels and relax, they won't know that you refused and you won't ever have to have any more contact with them
Everything's going to be fine don't worry 🙂

Aeroflotgirl · 05/10/2018 13:04

They are taking the piss, they can arrange to be there when the courier comes or arrange a re delivery. If they do ask you why your not accepting their parcels, tell them that they do not collect them from you, and don't answer the door.

Foslady · 05/10/2018 13:07

I feel for you JustOne anxiety is a bugger on situations like this, but once you take back control it will help no end - just refuse.

MauraIsles · 05/10/2018 13:13

Just refuse them OP! I had NDN, young guys renting together who I used to take parcels in for, then we starting having constant problems with them playing loud music constantly and just generally being rude and noisy, and carried on even when told it was bothering us and our young DS late at night, they were pissing us off so I point blank refused to take any parcels in for them after that, so they had a lovely trek to the sorting office when they were off at the weekend 😄

Gabilan · 05/10/2018 13:14

I've asked every delivery driver and the postie not to leave things with him but they say he pops up and offers to take them and they find it hard to say 'she told us not to'.

May not be practical or possible for you but I find some companies (La Redoute, some off Amazon) will allow pick up from a local post office, as well as various click and collect options. Often it's free, or cheaper. I did that when I was having similar problems.

JuliaJaynes9 · 05/10/2018 13:31

So you say these people never leave their house well if they have to go and pick up parcels from the depot they will have to leave the house
that will be very amusing for you to witness 🤣

BMW6 · 05/10/2018 13:46

I would put a note through their letterbox.
" Just to let you know that I will not accept any more deliveries for you, as you refuse to open your door when I bring the parcels to you (and I know that you are in). Massively rude of you to do this, so I will not inconvenience myself further for you"

Melanippe · 05/10/2018 13:58

We have a fair few parcels delivered to our home because neither of us work in fixed bases. I appreciate it so much that my neighbour takes the parcels in for us that around every third or fourth parcel we get them a little something, flowers naice biccies or something to say thank you. I would feel crappy if I didn't because I know it can be an imposition. Your NDN is a cheeky bugger.

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JustOneApple · 05/10/2018 13:58

JuliaJaynes9 I would be very curious!

I've only ever seen the lady once when she was gardening in her backyard at 6am when me and DP got home from the airport after holiday. But I believe there is a guy there too as DP has seen him in there before.

I know my cat has been in their house as I saw him jump out of their window once!!

I will be refusing to accept from now on definitely!

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StormTreader · 05/10/2018 13:58

God, don't do that! Just stop accepting them. If they ever ask you about it (which they won't) just say "I'm not always home, probably best to find someone else who can take them in for you".

StormTreader · 05/10/2018 13:59

Sorry, that was in relation to "I would put a note through their letterbox."

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JustOneApple · 05/10/2018 14:01

Melanippe that's lovely. I wish mine just answered the door! Blush

I don't mind at all taking parcels, myself and the neighbors on the other side are always trading parcels we've had delivered for each other. It's just the cheekiness of this neighbor.

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MyShinyWhiteTeeth · 05/10/2018 14:01

I no longer get on with my neighbours. They've previously told delivery companies to leave large deliveries at my house with no permission given from me.

One time they were annoyed I was away as 'they had stuff coming!' It almost felt like they expected me to cancel my plans so I can take in their crappy parcels.

I've now refused to take in any of their parcels (more due to other bad behaviour from them) - I just tell the delivery drivers 'No as we don't get on' and they go and try elsewhere. Quite a few of the other neighbours also refuse to accept their parcels too.

teaandtoast · 05/10/2018 14:06

@VanGoghsDog - you could have a delivery box on your wall?

Easilyflattered · 05/10/2018 14:13

Courier drivers are quite used to people asking which neighbours before agreeing to accept a parcel.

CwtchesAreTheBest · 05/10/2018 14:19

I'm happy to take in parcels for lots of the neighbours except one house! They are the most miserable people and were very unpleasant to their lovely elderly next door neighbour.
You reap what you sow - don't feel guilty.

tillytrotter1 · 05/10/2018 14:28

I once took a parcel in for someone a few doors down, I took it round and on their door was, 'Notice, we will not accept deliveries for other addresses'! Quite funny really.

Ceilingrose · 05/10/2018 14:40

I know someone who once took a parcel for a neighbour and took it round and handed it over. Two weeks later they complained to the post office that it wasn't delivered, then accused them of stealing it.

My last neighbour twice commented meaningfully that I wasn't in when she needed to collect it from me, so I told the postman I wouldn't take in for that particular house.

I do for decent neighbours. But even then I had another lovely ex neighbour who was problematic in this respect. They were both out all day and away at weekends, but bought everything on Amazon.

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