To expect DH to Woman Up and not be ill on my birthday weekend?

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Warning: This is not lighthearted, I am very serious!

So, it's my birthday this Sunday, my sister and BIL are arriving tomorrow. DH has been off colour all week and tonight has gone downhill. He's been lying in bed since 7pm moaning about a tummy ache, even stealing DDs rubbish bin for vomit-catching purposes (although currently unused)

AIBU to expect DH to reserve feeling ill for one of the other 51 weekends of the year and Woman-Up for this weekend?

If he’s ill he’s ill. I very much doubt he’s done no it on purpose.

As its your birthday weekend you are surely more likely to get away with leaving him to it than usual.
Hopefully he won't expect you to clean the vomit bucket during your celebrations.
Grown ups can surely manage to make it to the toilet most of the time, vomit-wise?

What would you like him to do? Wave a magic wand, drink a magic potion?

YABU if the poor guy is ill, he's ill. I'm reminded of the thread where the lady who had a mouth abscess and was v ill was expected to go out to dinner by her DH. He was (rightly) condemned.

I know it's a shame that it's your birthday but try and muster up the empathy and compassion that you would like to receive if the positions were reversed.

Are you a small child or a princess? Grow the fuck up (as not lighthearted)

YABVU and you know it.

He is ill.

You’re really serious? Like you really think someone takes to their bed and pukes in a bin for the lolz?

I can’t believe you actually really think you are being reasonable

Is he still managing to go to work? What I mean is, is he ill when it's convenient for him to be ill but not when he has to work?

He’s sick, what is he meant to do?

Do you think he's doing it deliberately? If he's so nauseous he has a bucket by his bed, he's in no shape to go out and that's entirely outwith his control

I think DH needs to see a doctor.
And you are unreasonable and selfish.

The OP is joking.
I hope so anyway.

Does he not like ds and bil? Is there any reason to put it on and potentially not have to celebrate? Do you have any reason to doubt him at all?

If not yabu.

I bet he's thrilled he married such a supportive woman

Are you meant to be going out somewhere? Spreading vomiting bugs around when you can prevent it is really not on.

Are you celebrating a big birthday? Otherwise its embarrasing for you to behave like this if not...How would you feel if you were unwell and expected to go out for DH's birthday? If he is feeling under the weather he can't just snap out of it!!

Does he have form for being ill on your birthday or events that are important to you?

How’s he meant to just stop having a stomach bug? If you have a valid answer to this, please let me know. It would help me out enormously!

If he has form for this or exaggerating his illnesses then YANBU.

If he's usually a "normal" person then YABU.

If he has form for this or exaggerating his illnesses then YANBU

How do you exaggerate 'throwing up in a bucket'?

Treat him as you'd want to be treated OP. YABU.

The OP said the bucket is currently unused

Oh right. Well, let's all stand by then. Or not.

Thanks for your replies, I guess it will be me doing the womaning-up after all.

And to the one poster who realised I wasn't totally serious, you are spot on :-)

For those interested, DH is currently snoring and the sick bucket is still unused. He has had lots of sympathy in reality...

The point of this ‘I’m serious/ but I’m only joking’ thread was what exactly?

@SheGotBetteDavisEyes because as of last night he hasn't thrown up yet. There are people for whom a head ache is a migraine,a cold is the flu, a dodgy tummy food poisoning and if they get it all at once? Well they're already dying obviously.