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AIBU?

To expect DH to Woman Up and not be ill on my birthday weekend?

41 replies

tinofbeans · 04/10/2018 22:06

Warning: This is not lighthearted, I am very serious!

So, it's my birthday this Sunday, my sister and BIL are arriving tomorrow. DH has been off colour all week and tonight has gone downhill. He's been lying in bed since 7pm moaning about a tummy ache, even stealing DDs rubbish bin for vomit-catching purposes (although currently unused)

AIBU to expect DH to reserve feeling ill for one of the other 51 weekends of the year and Woman-Up for this weekend?

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ThePinkOcelot · 04/10/2018 22:08

If he’s ill he’s ill. I very much doubt he’s done no it on purpose.

SuperLoudPoppingAction · 04/10/2018 22:11

As its your birthday weekend you are surely more likely to get away with leaving him to it than usual.
Hopefully he won't expect you to clean the vomit bucket during your celebrations.
Grown ups can surely manage to make it to the toilet most of the time, vomit-wise?

Costacoffeeplease · 04/10/2018 22:12

What would you like him to do? Wave a magic wand, drink a magic potion?

Athena51 · 04/10/2018 22:15

YABU if the poor guy is ill, he's ill. I'm reminded of the thread where the lady who had a mouth abscess and was v ill was expected to go out to dinner by her DH. He was (rightly) condemned.

I know it's a shame that it's your birthday but try and muster up the empathy and compassion that you would like to receive if the positions were reversed.

Fucksgiven · 04/10/2018 22:15

Are you a small child or a princess? Grow the fuck up (as not lighthearted)

greendale17 · 04/10/2018 22:16

YABVU and you know it.

He is ill.

InspectorIkmen · 04/10/2018 22:19

You’re really serious? Like you really think someone takes to their bed and pukes in a bin for the lolz?

I can’t believe you actually really think you are being reasonable

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 04/10/2018 22:21

Is he still managing to go to work? What I mean is, is he ill when it's convenient for him to be ill but not when he has to work?

brittabot · 04/10/2018 22:41

He’s sick, what is he meant to do?

twattymctwatterson · 04/10/2018 22:42

Do you think he's doing it deliberately? If he's so nauseous he has a bucket by his bed, he's in no shape to go out and that's entirely outwith his control

Mxyzptlk · 04/10/2018 22:43

I think DH needs to see a doctor.
And you are unreasonable and selfish.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 04/10/2018 22:44

The OP is joking.
I hope so anyway.

MummysBusy · 04/10/2018 22:47

Does he not like ds and bil? Is there any reason to put it on and potentially not have to celebrate? Do you have any reason to doubt him at all?

If not yabu.

GoodHearted · 04/10/2018 22:49

I bet he's thrilled he married such a supportive woman

Jezzifishie · 04/10/2018 22:49

Are you meant to be going out somewhere? Spreading vomiting bugs around when you can prevent it is really not on.

Aqua25 · 04/10/2018 22:49

Are you celebrating a big birthday? Otherwise its embarrasing for you to behave like this if not...How would you feel if you were unwell and expected to go out for DH's birthday? If he is feeling under the weather he can't just snap out of it!!

C0untDucku1a · 04/10/2018 22:50

Does he have form for being ill on your birthday or events that are important to you?

Asterado · 04/10/2018 22:52

How’s he meant to just stop having a stomach bug? If you have a valid answer to this, please let me know. It would help me out enormously!

RebelRogue · 04/10/2018 23:02

If he has form for this or exaggerating his illnesses then YANBU.

If he's usually a "normal" person then YABU.

SheGotBetteDavisEyes · 04/10/2018 23:09

If he has form for this or exaggerating his illnesses then YANBU

How do you exaggerate 'throwing up in a bucket'?

Treat him as you'd want to be treated OP. YABU.

OolongSlayer · 04/10/2018 23:24

The OP said the bucket is currently unused

SheGotBetteDavisEyes · 04/10/2018 23:30

Oh right. Well, let's all stand by then. Or not.

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tinofbeans · 05/10/2018 06:52

Thanks for your replies, I guess it will be me doing the womaning-up after all.

And to the one poster who realised I wasn't totally serious, you are spot on :-)

For those interested, DH is currently snoring and the sick bucket is still unused. He has had lots of sympathy in reality...

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AgentJohnson · 05/10/2018 07:04

The point of this ‘I’m serious/ but I’m only joking’ thread was what exactly?

RebelRogue · 05/10/2018 07:05

@SheGotBetteDavisEyes because as of last night he hasn't thrown up yet. There are people for whom a head ache is a migraine,a cold is the flu, a dodgy tummy food poisoning and if they get it all at once? Well they're already dying obviously.

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