Over crap school photo?

[autumnis]

I think I'm probably being over sensitive about this....

Ds7 has SEN (ASD, anxiety), crap year at school (excluded, reduced timetable, CAMHS - the works). He's still on a reduced timetable and generally I feel we're a complete nuisance to everyone and he's a massive financial / social / educational burden to everyone.

School photo today and the prof came home and it's completely shit. Poor ds looks like he's grimacing and straining for a poo or something. He's very articulate and explained how the photographer did something stupid with a toy which was designed to make children smile but it was completely illogical so ds was perplexed and he said by the time he realised what they meant, the photo was taken and he was ushered away.

Surely the first rule of being a commercial photographer is to check that your product is something someone will be willing to buy? There's no way I'm buying it. It's completely awful and made worse that it's another reminder that his school experience is completely shit and he's not even worth the time it takes to get a nice photo of him.

He's actually very handsome and quite photogenic. Not that anyone there could care to find out.

I know. I know. Overly sensitive given the situation. I'm going to have a moment to wallow then get over myself.

I get it OP, it’s why we only have DS1s P1 and P7 photos. DDs P1 one wasn’t great either but we’ve ordered it because it’s her P1 one.

But aye, I hear you. It’s just one more thing isn’t it?

Hey, It sounds like you’re really struggling with the school and worrying about how your son is accepted/fits in generally. It seems like this photo is almost like a metaphor for how you’re feeling - no one caring enough to even get a good photo of your son. I’m so sorry you’re feeling so rubbish about things. Is there anyone at the school you can talk to to alleviate your fears without making it about the photo specifically (as focusing on this can easily be dismissed as you are seeing in this thread). I hope you find some support x

Why dont you take him to Max spiel man in his uniform at a quiet time they do much nicer and cheaper photos imo

Trainsanddiggers - that ship has sailed with the school unfortunately. They want us out we think. Not that there's anywhere to go at the moment but that's the road they've gone down we think.

I'm another max April man mum. I ended up with 3 different and lovely versions, in exactly the sizes I wanted, for much cheaper than the school ones. And no rubbish gimmicky gift tag shite I didn't want.

Last year the photos were awful. The school FB Page went mental with upset parents.

There was a complaint lodged and one of the mums, who happened to be a photographer offered to retake and provide digital images.

She did well out of it and we got a picture that looked like our child.

School photos are always rubbish! I swear photographers don't care! It's all about the numbers and don't even get me started on the prices!!! He did you a favour. As others have suggested, take you're own pictures babe xx

Sorry to hear that autumnis. No wonder you’re feeling sensitive. I hope if he does move it’s to a school that value him for who he is x

YANBU, I understand why this would upset you. It’s just like an extra blow.
Totally different situation but my DD8 had an bad accident in summer resulting in a deep scar across her cheek. This school photo has just reinforced how bad it was, and upset us all again.

All my school photos were crap. My hair was always sticking up. OTOH the one I have of my nephew is great.