Anyone up? I suspect I’m being UR.

[MrsFoxPlus4]

So, I have councilling today for my depression, anxiety order, PTSD & agoraphobia. I’m a mother of 4 and don’t leave the house without my husband or dad. I also have lost my hair so that’s a big deal. I own my own salon, obviously not very active right now but because of that I used to be really glamorous. And I haven’t worn makeup in months, I tend to not even wear my nice clothes or nice makeup because I’m not working I feel like it’s only there for special occasions (it’s so stupid I can’t explain it) I feel like it I don’t look like crap nobody believes how I feel, I suspect it’s all in my head. Is it okay to wear makeup to therapy today? I haven’t slept for 2 days. I’m sat in front of my vanity and feeling awful about wanting to paint my face. And I didn’t know who else to tell 😭

Of course it's ok, if it makes you feel better then do it x

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Wear whatever you want. It doesn’t matter.

I hope the counselling helps.

If you want to wear make up today then it’s absolutely ok.

Of course it is. Good luck

If you want to I'm sure it's fine Mrs Fox! A therapist will surely not go by outward appearances but by what you tell them. Hope it goes well.

Of course it is, the way you look isn't a reflection of how you feel, the counsellor will know that. I hope your session goes ok today.

Sweetheart, you should absolutely wear make-up. Going to therapy IS a special occasion, looking after yourself, honouring the brave survivor that you are.
You are suffering so much, and you are about to do something incredibly brave and powerful.
Well done.

It's definitely ok. Hope the counselling helps.

Put on your makeup, make the best of your hair and wear your nice clothes. If it makes you feel better then do it.

The great thing about therapy/ counselling is that you can turn up any old way. Bring all your chaos, all your exhaustion, all your glam. It’s all part of you( the chaos was how I used to go to therapy, not a comment on you).
Really, it’s time for you, no rules.

It helped me put my life back together. It really healed me.

Best of luck with today x

If it helps think of therapy as a special occasion. It’s a step to help you get better. That is an important special occasion.

Thank you all so much. My makeup is dusty it’s been so long and it’s something Iv spent a lot of money on. It’s one thing I struggle to get past that if I look alright I must feel alright when it’s not even an assumption I make about other people. I schedule these appointments on being able to go to therapy with my dad or husband. I honestly only leave the house otherwise if it’s an emergnacy or I have the kids on my own I can’t not take them to the park, or the gp. I’ll be glad once I’m back home today it’s making me sick already! I hope everyone has a good day x

Any acts of self care that make you feel better are okay. Well done for reaching out for help, from MN and therapy.

Big big hugs to you.

These were all words I very much needed to hear ❤️

My sister always gives out to me for keeping things for special occasions!

Your a mum of 4. Give yourself a back pat! Every day is a special occasion.

To damn right - I find putting makeup on really therapeutic - both the process and the end result (a cliched statement but "putting on your war paint" really does apply sometimes).

❤️ just wanted to say you're amazing for taking a step that will help make things easier for you - it can seem really daunting, but you're doing it and that's ace. Put your favourite lipstick on and remind yourself that choosing to make a positive step in your life IS a special occasion xx

Going to a counselling session is a special occasion because your trying to get better.

You put on some make up!

Hope it goes well today

Depression makes you feel this way - that you aren’t worthy or deserving of certain things, that you’ve failed to earn the right to care for yourself in certain ways.

It’s not true - you’re entitled to wear whatever makeup you like whenever you like. And your therapist isn’t going to judge you for it either.

Good luck today and going forward, I hope you are able to heal

Therapy is where you can be whatever you need to be.
That includes makeup or clothes with holes in.
Crying or laughing
Being honest about the bitchy feelings

The counsellor can cope with tears and being shouted at and being blamed and giggling with with and with you looking fabulous or a mess or you saying the same thing over and over and over again.
You won't shock them and they are not there to judge but to support

It's ALL ok in there

Hell yes, put that slap on. There’s a saying ‘fake it till you make it’. Lots of people are living it daily. If putting your make-up on makes you feel even a teensy bit good- do it! The more tiny steps you can take, the better. Hope today goes well OP. X

Good luck with your appointment today 😊

If you want to put your make up on, you do it! It’s a special day because you woke up, because you are you and because you matter.
Whatever helps you today, you do it. Really hope your session goes well, know when any of the black feelings start to creep on we all believe in you and so they can damn well bugger off!!!! We are standing with you, we are holding your hand and we are the little voice inside when you can’t hear yours saying ‘it’s ok, one step at a time, you can do this because we believe and we know that you are more than a diagnosis - you are a wonderful woman who is stronger than she knows right now, but when she gets to the other side will realise how amazing she is’.
I too have been there - you really are doing great

Put your make up on! The therapist will not judge you on that at all. How you feel / this discussion might even make a good opener about your feelings / health?

Also, if your make up does make you feel a bit better thats also ok!!! Its good to feel a bit uplifted, and it doesn't in any way invalidate your need for help. If you had a broken leg, but painkillers took the edge off, you'd still have a broken leg... Not a perfect analogy but you see what I mean!?

Good luck! xx