To think a mini moon at Xmas is depressing?

[Angel0u]

Posting for traffic. DP and my income is looking uncertain until the new year when he starts a new job. We are getting married at Xmas and our although we'd love to go off on honeymoon straight away we can't afford it, so we are planning to go in the Spring when things are more secure.
Any ideas for a mini moons / alternative that won't feel like a let down over Christmas week? It's our 1st Christmas celebrating as a couple without families - we had already booked time off work ready to go away, and our DC will be at MIL for a week! We'd like to go somewhere but within a budget, and as it's Christmas where we spend the actual day is a consideration.

So why didnt you just say your DC would be with her DF rather than your MIL.

Weird post all round tbh.

You are so right, OP. Only having £1500 to spend on a week away with your new husband in December, when you'll have to work out how to allocate a proper budget for an actual holiday three months later is, definitely, what I understand 'depressing' to mean...

FFS, why can't people say, 'my daughter is with her dad'?

I’m confused though, if you alternate every other year then how have you and DP never had a Christmas alone? I guess he has kids from a previous relationship and you have them every year that your daughter is with her dad?🤨

I think you need to tread carefully with regards to your DD and your new DH - because it could well seem that you are happily off building a new life without her. And like i said 15 is a precarious time. (See the pp who describes her heartache at being left behind while
Mum starts a new life)

Maybe just slow down on the wedding guff and ‘special time’ and ‘lovely new life’ and think about how this is affecting DD.

Good grief Under!! “Slow down with the wedding guff”! Geez, excuse me for daring to be happy at my age!
You sound like the sort of person who’d prefer I sat at home by myself waiting for my daughter to return from her Christmas.
I am not having this conversation with my daughter, I am having it on this forum. The way I speak about things with her is obviously not the same.
Also, DH and I have been together since she was little so she’s not insecure about any new life being built without her.

Tallpoppies yes it alternates, and DP and I would usually stay in our home and have one or two friends over, or his sister but she has her own family IL so we don’t really have anyone relying on us to stay at home this year, since DC is with her DF.

It's not really your first Christmas alone then is it? You've had plenty of chances for that in the past. I think Op you got people's backs up with your "depressing" comment.

Some peoples Ajas

Yup, first one alone. Always had people there other times.

www.thetorridon.com/our-experiences/christmas/ only 3 days for your budget but complete luxury

£1,500 isn't going to get you a dream honeymoon somewhere in the Seychelles, but it's more than adequate to hole up in a posh hotel somewhere more locally. Aren't you going to be too busy shagging each other to care whether the hotel is in the UK or abroad? You say it's your first Christmas together and you usually have an a late teen around - my vote is you spend the £1,500 on a posh hotel, room service and plenty of condoms!

Or have I oversimplified it...?

Wow nooddsocks that looks awesome!

Pringle you’re basically correct I think! Just looking for somewhere that will still feel Christmassy

I don't think you should have posted this on AIBU.

"Daring to be happy at my age" is a bit of twat thing to say for someone who has had a partner since the kids were little, plenty of family and friends and a spare £1,500 to spend on a short break with a big holiday planned a few months later.

It's not a big deal to have " a Christmas alone" when you make the choice to invite a load of people round every other year.

Everywhere is nice at Christmas. I wouldn't go to Scotland because it's a pig to get to.in the snow/ rain.

Sorry if our top budget of about 1500 offends people

I think that's probably what's happened here. £1500 for a makeshift honeymoon until you can have a proper one? Because money is tight until the new year? You should have kept the budget under wraps.

Skye, via the Caledonian Sleeper.

@Angel0u I think most posh hotels will feel Christmassy - they will be decorated (including a giant tree in the lobby), you'll be able to order mince pies to your little heart's content and there will be crap TV on the hotel TV. (For when you're tired from shagging, obviously.)

If I had £1,500 to blow for a Christmassy stay, depending on which end of the country you're at, I'd look at the Scotsman in Edinburgh or the St Pancras Renaissance in London. But really, any 5* hotel will do, and you certainly have the budget for it.

I hope you have a great time.

SheWoreVelvet that comment of mine was a sarcastic one in response to a mother of all twattish comments from someone who said I should “slow down the wedding guff”.

Thanks Blueberry, I didn’t say the budget at first but then some people asked so they could help advise.
I’d like to think mumsnet is somewhere you can just be honest and ask advice without having to conceal information through fear of judgement. I wouldn’t necessarily discuss money in that way in person over coffee with friends, but this is a forum where no-one knows me.

Good ideas Pringle, thanks. I think Edinburgh sounds great.

How about a cottage/log cabin or something similar in the Scottish Highlands or Islands? There's so much to see and do in Scotland, if you wanted to travel around a bit while there.

I'm Australian. I spent my best Christmas ever (I was an adult and I'm including childhood Christmases in this) in Bruges which is one of my two or three favourite places in the world and I've visited several times.

I'd happily have a 3/4 day honeymoon there - sadly, it would be a bit far from Sydney for 3/4 days or I'd visit it every year.

Why not just ask on the Travel forum where would be romantic at Christmas for a couple without kids and give your budget?

If you ask an AIBU question, expect to get an answer on your reasonableness.
Which is yes you are. Nothing depressing about having a romantic mini break at Chridtmas with a grand and half budget.

How's it a mini moon when you're spending £1500 & going away for a week. That's a honeymoon. Going away in Spring is a holiday.

Can't you just go away for a day or so after the wedding then be around for Christmas Day. I can't believe you're dumping your daughter on Christmas Day so you can go on holiday.

I wouldn't go to Scotland because it's a pig to get to.in the snow/ rain

If you plan on walking then maybe but its great we have airports, motorways & railway stations which seem to make getting here quite easy.

Massive drip feed about daughter spending Xmas with her dad as opposed to her grand parents/cousins

If you chose to make such a nice situation into one which is ‘depressing’ - everything is going to be hard work isn’t it 🤔

Massive drip feed about daughter spending Xmas with her dad as opposed to her grand parents/cousins

Agreed - also very peculiar to refer to her as MIL in the same breath as getting married.

It’s EX-MIL or daughters Grandparents.

God know why you’d post to deliberately deceive like this if all you actually want is Christmas break ideas- really bizarre.