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To not buy these tickets?

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tina4567 · 02/10/2018 10:23

So a few weeks ago a concert was announced.
Me and two friends said we were going ..it was £35 each.
Friend 1 then said she couldn't afford it till next week.
Friend 2 got paid on Friday and yesterday said she didn't have the money till next week and could I cover her.
I really can't afford £105 till next week.
They both knew about it.
Friend 2..always has cash but every time it comes to paying for things she says she's skint.
Wibu to just say let's just leave it?

OP posts:
Jeezoh · 02/10/2018 10:24

I’d leave it til you all have the money then buy them if they’re still available

19lottie82 · 02/10/2018 10:25

If you can’t afford it then don’t.

MummaGiles · 02/10/2018 10:26

Just from a practical perspective I presume none of you have a credit card that could be used to buy the tickets, on the basis the other two people will pay up within a week or two?

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tina4567 · 02/10/2018 10:26

I can afford my ticket just not two others for them.
It's a small venue so will sell out in minutes.

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Original poster
tina4567 · 02/10/2018 10:27

All of us have credit cards but they don't want to use them.
So I'm thinking why should I be the one again to do it.
It's always me and once I was left 3 months waiting for the cash.

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Fiffyshadesofgreymatter · 02/10/2018 10:28

You know friend 2 has the money. Tell friend 2 that you can't afford all 3 so "guess we will need to miss it unless you can pay yours now to help".

cblack · 02/10/2018 10:30

I'd book a ticket for myself and sod them. If they'll have the cash next week they can stick it on the credit card, why should you take the risk.

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tina4567 · 02/10/2018 10:31

Called friend 2 and explained and she said she's gutted etc
Normally in the past when this happens I go ahead and buy them but sick of doing it
I just don't want to seem selfish

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FullOfJellyBeans · 02/10/2018 10:33

Leave it, they sound like the kind of people who will have you chasing them to pay you back.

FullOfJellyBeans · 02/10/2018 10:34

Called friend 2 and explained and she said she's gutted etc

Well that's her own fault for not putting money by for the concert. Not your responsibility to cover them and it's good you put a stop to it.

Jeezoh · 02/10/2018 10:35

If she’s “gutted” then she should stick it on her credit card and pay it off as soon as she has the cash. Her cash flow decisions are not your problem, particularly if she’s got form for not paying back quickly. Stay strong!

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 02/10/2018 10:37

It might be worth a last push of “I bought the tickets for x, so it’s someone else’s turn to use their credit card. I’m happy to transfer my share to you by Yday if you can stump up for them when they go on sale on Friday”.

RuggerHug · 02/10/2018 10:38

Get your own if you want and if they can't be bothered sorting their own before it sells out go solo or sell it on.

Glumglowworm · 02/10/2018 10:40

How are you selfish when she’s the one expecting you to sub her?

YANBU especially as they have form for not paying you back.

TomHardysNextWife · 02/10/2018 10:42

I learned the hard way with a "friend" who was always skint. She begged me to get tickets to see Justin Timberlake when they were released.... and said she'd pay me straight away. It was around £160 for the tickets, £20 in fuel and yes I drove, £10 to park the car..... and she never gave me a penny.

Don't buy them OP. It means you going without but you're not a bank. Or find other people to go with.

Ginkypig · 02/10/2018 10:54

Don't go without get 1 ticket for yourself and have a brilliant time!

PuppyMonkey · 02/10/2018 10:54

If the friend keeps going on about being gutted, just say: "Yes me too. It's such a shame we had to leave it this time because you didn't have the money."

MadameButterface · 02/10/2018 11:00

get your ticket and be like oh noes

I can't be doing with flaky ppl

serbska · 02/10/2018 11:01

I'd get myself a ticket and still go.

DarlingNikita · 02/10/2018 11:03

I just don't want to seem selfish

Well, you're not. Why should you be the only one to use your credit card?Why should you be left waiting for the cash back for three months?

Screw em. Find better friends to go with or get your ticket and tell them 'I'm going, really hope you do too' and leave it at that.

astoundedgoat · 02/10/2018 11:04

Just get your ticket. I'm sure if they actually want to go they will miraculously find the money when they realise you're actually not going to pay for them.

astoundedgoat · 02/10/2018 11:05

And there is no way on earth you seem "selfish" by not paying for their concert tickets, when they have demonstrated form for not paying you back promptly.

GucciKnickers · 02/10/2018 11:08

'It's always me and once I was left 3 months waiting for the cash.'

If it was a one off fine, as it's a regular thing then no. They are taking you for granted and now expect it.

GabsAlot · 02/10/2018 11:11

if they have form for this then dont buy them and maybe get new friends to go with

MegMez · 02/10/2018 11:13

If it's not a reserved seating concert I'd just buy one ticket for yourself. If you can't afford to lend them money you can't afford it so don't feel bad. They need to sort themselves out. Or buy 2 and don't tell them. If it sells out and one says "aw, gutted, I've got the money now" you can sell it to her.

I go to the theatre on my own all the time. If I waited for flakey and busy friends to be free I'd never see anything!

Final thing: if they can't afford the £35 now, can they guarantee they'll have the cash for the concert - taxi/car park, drink etc.

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