I found out that me and ex’s new girlfriend of 6 months have a mutual friend. My friend didn’t know she was dating him, until she told her who he was. Anyway the new girlfriend has said to my friend “ Shortbreadtea must be really stupid for letting him go”, or “ I can’t understand how she can just give up so easily on her marriage” this really pissed me off, because she doesn’t know how it was like living with him.
I was with him for 8 years, he came from a home where the mother did everything for him. He didn’t lift a finger when we were living together, never helped me with the children even when I was ill, he would just let me struggle. He would put me down, call me every name under the sun in arguments in front of the DCs, he was controlling and everything had to be on his terms, he had to choose everything. He would never let anyone else chose something for once, he couldn’t hold down a job and spent his days lying in bed playing PS4 all night, and sleep all day. And then there’s his mum, he would let her disrespect me and never stood up for me. He was always angry and aggressive, felt like I was walking on eggshells in my own home.
I would beg him to change, and would argue til I was blue in the face, he did change for a week or two then went back to his old ways. I was tired of it, and lost all respect and love for him, couldn’t go on anymore.
I feel like she’s only seeing his flashy car, fancy nights out, restaurants etc. And him playing happy families with the DCs when they’re with him. She obviously thinks she’s the cat who got the cream and he feels the same.