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To not let sister in the house

52 replies

Plannergirl9 · 01/10/2018 19:09

It's my birthday tomorrow and my sister had asked to come round with 1yr old nephew. Usually this isn't a problem however, I have just started chemo I had my first treatment Saturday and DN has hand foot and mouth he was taken to OOH yesterday and was diagnosed. He isn't allowed to go to nursery this week.

I called my chemo nurse about seeing DN and the nurse said no, definitely not.

I had spoken to Dsis this morning to say sorry you can't visit at the moment. She then said that DN wanted to see me on my birthday so they would drive (45 minutes) to drive by and wave Confused. I said don't bother I'd Skype instead.

Dsis, DN and BIL turned up half an hour ago. DH opened the door and Dsis told him I said to come by. Obviously DH knew she was talking shite. Anyway long story short I shouted down from the top of the stairs, she shouldn't have bothered coming and I'd call her tomorrow. DH wouldn't let them in the house.

I've now had DM and DBrother on the phone about how mean I was to DN as I 'made' them drive 90minutes and shut the door in their face. I put dm right who now agrees with me.

Aibu to think my Dsis was a bit of a bint and it's her own fault for not listening. Why don't people listen? Ahh

Sorry for the rant.

OP posts:
twiglet · 01/10/2018 19:31

Some people really don't listen or think that its scare mongering etc.
My FIL had chemo treatment this yr my MIL didn't listen about the risks and visited her friend who was ill.
FIL developed a lung infection thankfully not the flu strain my MIL had been in contact with but seeing him so ill she was torn to pieces for days until they confirmed the infection wasn't related. From that point onwards she listened to everything told about contact with others etc.

StoneofDestiny · 01/10/2018 19:40

Your sister is a selfish idiot.

purplecorkheart · 01/10/2018 19:46

Your sister was in the wrong. Good luck with the chemo, hope it helps your lupus.

diddl · 01/10/2018 19:48

Bloody hell-you must feel like telling the lot of them to fuck off!

What an unnecessarily dramatic family.

BlueJava · 01/10/2018 19:49

Your sister is completely unhinged and she is trying to guilt trip you. Of course he shouldn't be allowed in. Good luck with the lupus treatment and happy birthday for tomorrow!!

LexieLulu · 01/10/2018 19:49

Chemo is very hard on your body, your immune system will be weaker and frankly she's being selfish

Willow2017 · 01/10/2018 19:50

Your nephew didnt give two about wishing you happy birthday. It was all about your sis and her wants.

Selfish stupid woman to think rules dont apply to her.

I would be furious she put my health at risk even further cos she wanted to play happy families.

Good for your dh too. Hope you are both spelling it out to all concerned what the silly cow did.

Willow2017 · 01/10/2018 19:51

Damm phone!

Hope you feel better soon
My mum.had systemic lupus its a frigging awful condition.

Original poster
Plannergirl9 · 01/10/2018 19:54

Dsis hadn't told DM about the hand foot and mouth so when I told DM she wasn't happy. DBrother can't say no to Dsis and is her sheep.

DM has called to say she will be having a few words with Dsis tonight. I almost feel sorry for Dsis now.

I think Dsis has forgotten all the times I've had to avoid sick people especially when my other dnieces and dnephews were younger.

OP posts:
Glumglowworm · 01/10/2018 19:54

YANBU

DN wouldn’t have given a shiny shit about seeing you on your birthday! And even if he did, he’s a toddler! Distract him and be the parent and say no ffs.

Hope the chemo helps you OP! And hope that your sister learns a bit of compassion and sense

Original poster
Plannergirl9 · 01/10/2018 19:55

@Willow2017 yes lupus is both unreasonable and a CF.

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ohfourfoxache · 01/10/2018 20:03

She’s selfish, ignorant and nasty to boot.

I’m not sure I’d want to see her for quite some time after this.

Happy birthday btw Thanks

Ifonlyoneday · 01/10/2018 20:04

Your sister is being stupid. Your husband is ace. Your mum will hopefully tell your brother and sister to stop being so selfish. Hope your treatment helps.

Returnofthesmileybar · 01/10/2018 20:15

Oh my God Shock She's a selfish bitch and honestly her child is fucked if he is that pandered to that she will drive 90 minutes and risk her sisters health just because she can't say no to him, some people seriously need a dose of cop on

kooshbin · 01/10/2018 20:21

Is your sister one of those people who think the word "no" doesn't apply to them?

I doubt she'd forgotten all the times you had to avoid your other nieces and nephews. She decided she would come, plus infectious baby, because that's she wanted to do and that's all the matters.

What was your BIL's reaction? Or is he as much of a sheep as your brother?

I hope your Mum gives your sister both barrels.

Flowers for your birthday.

CloudCaptain · 01/10/2018 20:27

Damn, has your sister always hated you?
At the very least she managed to make your birthday all about her didn't she. Is this a theme?

LongHotSummer24715 · 01/10/2018 20:47

People just don't understand a weak immune system. I have a son with a tracheostomy who is very open to infections. In the winter we stay home from oct-mar for flu and rsv season. My DSis just doesn't 'get' it. She will arrive with a cold or strep throat at my door then feel insulted when I turn her away. She's even texted saying I'm keeping her from my son. He ended up on a ventilator in ICU from a common cold caught off of DM. Since then they've taken me a bit more seriously.

FullOfJellyBeans · 01/10/2018 20:49

Your sister sounds demented who on earth would do that to someone going through chemo. Does she have form for this kind of stunt or has she just temporarily insane?

diddl · 01/10/2018 20:52

Thing is, even without all of the background, it boils down to Op said "no" & her sister took no notice & did what she wanted anyway.

I thought tthat they planned to do the driveby tomorrow?

Did she think that no to tomorrow meant yes to today??Confused

StrongerThanIThought76 · 01/10/2018 20:55

Your sis is an idiot. A fucking selfish idiot.

My sil brought my chicken proxy nephew to a family meal the day before my dp had chemo. I made it quite clear the implications of anyone turning up with germs (so that he could have the option not to come) but she ignored it.

Hope you feel better soon OP.

Olderbyaminute · 02/10/2018 00:03

I went through radiation for cancer over the holidays last year and I couldn’t be around sick people. I’m also an RN and I’ve seen so many ignorant people coming to visit people in the hospital with small infants some as young as four weeks old! I am so tempted to ask if they are out of their damn minds! Lupus sucks-I hope you are well soon! Your sister is a selfish diva!

FaithHopeAndSkulduggery · 02/10/2018 00:42

@StrongerThanIThought7

Did they have to postpone?

Uncreative · 02/10/2018 01:18

You have my permission to be a drama queen and tell everyone you have ever met about the time your sister tried to use your nephew to kill you.

sunbunnydownunder · 02/10/2018 01:28

She is one of the reasons that things like hand foot and mouth spread so fast. I bet she won't keep him home until he is clear. I can't imagine bringing any of my ds around anyone going through chemo if they had as much as a runny nose.

I have a 1 yr old almost 2 and he has zero idea about what a birthday is.

Hope the chemo goes ok and your not too sick with it.

stationaryace · 02/10/2018 03:26

Selfish twit. I'm half way through my first chemo regime with two young kids, and now the winter bugs are starting it's enough trying not to get sick off my own young kids, nevermind other people!

Well done to your dh on standing your ground and hope you have a lovely birthday FlowersCake

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