I feel horrible about this but here goes. I'm currently 20 weeks pregnant after a lot of cancer treatment and being told I'd be infertile it was a very happy accident. Currently off sick because while the baby is doing well, the symptoms have shot me down. I'm 29 and my partner is 41, he's Australian and already has a son from a teenage pregnancy. So the son is 23.
Son lives in Australia normally so not something I have to deal with on a regular basis but he's currently staying with us for a year (until January) this was discussed with me and I didn't see any problems at the time because I assumed he'd be an adult and help around the house etc. The plan was he spends a couple of months travelling around Europe and then come and live with us, find a job and work full time for the rest of the year.
He did the travel, moved in with us, obviously not having a job. He didn't manage to get a job until August so he's been living here for free, food and everything included and not helping at all around the house,he just sits on his laptop all day when he's home and stops for food and sleep, and his sleeping pattern is just all over the shop.
Now he has a job, he spent his entire first pay on a holiday to Ireland, didn't give us any money (we asked for £200 a month) then the next month he did give us money but he's kept phoning in sick and not bothering to go to work. He's clearly going to get the sack and honestly I hate him being here all day every day. I need time to myself which I don't get at all and neither does my partner. It would be fine if he at least tried helping, doing dishes, cleaning etc but none of that happens. And it seems pointless threatening him with anything because we can't kick him out or stop feeding him. The stress is making me more ill and I'm getting more pregnant and less able to clean a whole house. My partner works really long hours so it's just me and him all day for four days a week and I can't stand it.