To be annoyed when my friends children butt in on our conversations..........

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..........and for them not be told to wait while adults speak?.....so I get ignored....and we never seem to finish a conversation.....It happens all the time.
and its really pissing me off now.

Please tell me its not just me.

yes you kind of are. depending on the age of the children they won't be able to wait v long. my 4 yo kniows that you say excuse me but even then he can't wait v long. Hes not being rude, hes just trying to join in. can you not organise a child free day with your friend?

depends on their age - when they're toilet training, they have to tell you and you need to listen. Older children, agree, should be told to wait - so they stand right next to you staring at you, waiting for you to draw breath .

YANBU if they are old enough to know better. Tis just manners,

My DD is 7 and doesn't interrupt, just stands a foot away staring at me with her mouth moving silently

I find the converse actually. I find some adults can be really rude to young children who wait patiently to speak and then get talked over the top of by an adult who can't interupt their stream of consciousness for even a minute, while the child has their say!

I like it when my DD joins in a conversation IYKWIM but when she interrupts to say "can i have an ice lolly" or something, I think its rude of her and she knows it.

lol at mamag's dd silently mouthing

my 4 yr old is terrible for interrupting-have to keep reminding him which stilts the conversation even more

It's not just you.

I'm amazed at how some kids are indulged and not told to wait their turn. It's incredibl;y frustrating.

Agree with soapbox. Really feel for children who are just ignored by adults when they are being really well-mannered and waiting to say something.

My DS is 4 and I feel that he needs to learn to wait his turn. It is rude to interrupt a conversation. My friends DD is nearly 5. I could see the point if they need to go to the toilet etc but they also have to learn not to interrupt - whether its an adult or another child.

Yes No?

Its so good to hear other opinions.

It's not just you.
I really don't see why you should organise a free day without your children!
Parents should tell kids to wait until they have finished talking it is simple etiquette.
Or are we mere handmaidens to our children and give in to their every whim?

I agree soapbox. And I remember times when I was a child when we would stop to chat and mum would witter endlessly on to her friend whilst I was standing there bored and fed up. I always make sure that I let my child have his or her say after apologising to the adult, and then ask the child not to interrupt again.

But why should kids wait for the adults to finish? Why shouldn't adults wait for children sometimes.

Hmmm, I think there's a fine line between "wait your turn, it's rude to interrupt" - which is common manners and children should learn it - and "shut up, adults are talking, I will listen to your at some future unspecified point when I've finished my conversation".

I don't like rude people butting in, whatever their age (in fact it's marginally more obnoxious when adults do it), but neither do I like to see people treating children like a sub-species with no rights or dignity. Tricky.

I do agree with soapbox too. Children have got to have their say too and be made to feel worthy. But there are ways. If they interrupt ALL the time they will expect the world to revolve around them and to not respect other people/children.

I agree it's annoying, but adult conversations go on and on and on and on and on

children can't always wait to speak, and the things they have to say are important, too

Waiting their turn though, in my book is until the speaking adult next draws breath!

Not until an hour of rambling has passed.

Children do not interupt conversations in my house - they join them!

Mine come up to me and say 'excuse me'. I then say 'just a second' or something similar. Then I will make a break in my conversation to listen to them.
If it's brief, all well and good.
If it's something more complex then I tell them I'll come and find them for a chat when I've finished talking to X.
I don't expect my children to interrupt me, but I also don't expect them to stand there like a melon for minutes on end whilst I finish chatting to someone else.

I say to my DD, who has SN's - 'wait please mummy is talking', but she either refuses to accept it or doesn't get it and carries on. i find it really hard and do apologise but it's just how it is. Children find it very hard to grasp waiting for mummy to finish talking and le4t's face it, sometimes threy have a bloody long wait! They have to get a word in edgeways and are often excited as they are oput somewhere or have someone new around etc. It's just life, children will always interrupt although I do think the parents should make attempts to teach them to wait a moment or say 'excuse me please mummy'.

i hate the butt in kids.

My dd went through a stage of doing this all the time. Infact, sometimes she would interrupt just for the sake of it with nothing to actually say IFKWIM. After numerous times of being told that she must wait until the conversation is finished or say 'excuse me' if it's really important, she now sometimes sits with her hand up in the air so that I know she wants to say something LOL! I think this is a school 'thing' though and always makes me laugh and distracts me from the original conversation anyway

We have a system that we use in the car to stop my head exploding. Whoever is talking first gets to finish but not if they are just meandering on for ever (DD tends to do this - every story starts at just about the moment she wakes up ). Then someone else gets a go. They generally are quite good at this but when they've just come out of school they are too full of pent up energy and things to tell it doesn't always work.

Blimey Custardo - you hate all kids who butt in. Wow. Hope you never have to have a RL convo with me while my SN's DD is in the room then!

Brothelsprouts sounds like they way it should be, in my book.

well have you taught your ds about turn taking when talking? if not should it not have been something you considered before gettin annoyed?
I was never taught this as a child but my dp was so when at his parents they are very patient with me as i sometimes still slip up (21yo) i have already started teaching my dd(1yo) this important politness!