To be annoyed when my friends children butt in on our conversations..........

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..........and for them not be told to wait while adults speak?.....so I get ignored....and we never seem to finish a conversation.....It happens all the time.
and its really pissing me off now.

Please tell me its not just me.

good post squidette. My point is though that children have to be taught to respect others - children and adults. Otherwise they will grow up thinking the world revolves around them and show no respect to others - children and adults alike.

prettycandles I must admit that if my child wants to speak and I tell him to wait most of the time I will probably break off the conversation early. I only tell him to wait so that he gets the point that he shouldn't interrupt. 2 minutes is an eternity to a 4 year old after all.

DS says excuse me

but he keeps saying it .. must work on that

I then wait until we're through with the immediate conversation and then say 'yes DS'

I think children who butt in are just being ill-mannered .. actually I think its the parents who think its ok for their children to butt in are ill-mannered.. I don't mind if a child totally destroys a conversation as long as they are doing it politely

children, know your place!

Twiglett, my friend's dd can spend a whole conversation saying 'excuse me mummy excuse me mummy' over and over like a robot, then when you finally turn to her to ask her what she wanted to say she's almost always forgotten!

Absolutely. After all, we're doing it to make a point, not to exert control over them.

Oh God, am bad mother again. I sometimes let mine interrupt, sometimes not, depending on lots of variables. I never took it as the ultimate sign of bad/good manners. Wrong again.

yes they do

mwahhahahahahahhaaa

it is not on my list of worries tbh

mine are 4 and 2

you try getting a 2 year old to shut up, you are a better person than me

Nearly 3 though isn't she OO?

shut it HMC

(yes in August)

I normally screech "oh can ANYBODY have a decent conversation in this house!!!!!!!!!"

and go and retrive polly pocket's skirt from under the fridge or whatever

My SIL's kids do this frequently and she always turns her attention to them straight away. It wouldn't be so bad if they weren't all in their mid-20's.....

ooo must be feeling vulnerable-crap muffer today. Youngest just come in with hands covered in red paint. Having bad day and promised myself would not drink today.....................

Must say it doesn't really irritate me when other kids butt in so maybe thats why I vary with mine (which is worse than being consistent I know).

ds and friends do it all the time, and i tell them that mummy (or friend, or daddy, or grandma etc) is speaking and to wait. ds is getting pretty good at it, his friends look at me like i have 2 heads (i am probably the only person who says it to them). he is 4y8m. i don't expect him to remember yet really, but he does occasionally. I am telling him to wait for a brief lull, say "mummy" (or whoever) then wait for acknowledgement before speaking (which is either "yes ds" or "xyz is just talking, wait a minute").

I see my four year old ds waiting patiently every morning to talk to his teacher, who is always talking to other teachers or parents; he waits and waits and when she finishes she sometimes looks down at him and he starts talking, only for her attention to immediately be taken by another adult. i find that really rude.

I also find it rude when we visit certain relatives who will do a duty one or two sentences of conversation with ds then expect him to not talk for the rest of the time so that they can go on about work or their last cruise

I'm not offended by kids interrupting really....a much older kid I suppose would annoy me but I haven't come across one who does!

Oh I hate it. Its terribly bad manners and it reflects badly on the parents.

But my kids do it ... and they have been told not to zillions of times.

having now read the thread, I agree it's not just children, dh starts to talk to me when ds is speaking, I say to him "Just a minute, ds is talking to me".

If they want something, there are ways of doing it without breaking the flow of a juicy adult conversation, though.

Compare:
"Anyway, this bloke went up to Dave and, would you believe it, said that he knew he'd been sleeping with - - - What? What IS it, darling? Well, where did you last SEE it? Well, how did you manage to lose it?" etc.

with:

"Anyway, this bloke went up to Dave and, would you believe it, said that he knew he'd been sleeping with - (try your bedroom, darling) - the POSTWOMAN!! Would you believe it? Of course, Dave was livid, etc etc."

Compared with

"Anyway, this bloke went up to Dave and, would you believe it, said that he knew he'd been sleeping with - - the POSTWOMAN!! Would you believe it? Of course, Dave was livid, etc etc."

Now darling what was it?

Can't stand it when kids are allowed to interupt, it's bad manners both from the parents and the kids. These kids are probably over indulged in all sorts of areas.

Absolutely. What they want is a good thrashing every Saturday, whether they deserve it or not