AIBU to be fed up with OPs who start a thread then leave us hanging?

[Alleycat1]

Some threads go on for pages. People offer helpful advice but although the OP might engage for a while then disappears from the thread. So, did she LTB, did she call out MIL, was the parking problem resolved, ????? etc.etc. It drives me up the wall. Is it just me or AIBU?

@Chiffon she kept her job!

Whoops! "Exactly!" should have been for RibbonAurora.

Depends. A parking thread with diagrams needs closure. Can’t leave people like that.

I'm sure it was removed for good reason but I keep thinking about the Op last weekend whose "D"H took her EBF newborn on a trip to see his family, leaving her at home saying formula would be fine...I never heard if the baby came back or not and then the thread disappeared. I hope she's ok.

I'd like an option to just view OP's posts on a thread.
Sometimes there can be a really long thread, and you have to scrawl through 15 pages of "send it back" to find that she did somewhere in the middle.

@Witchend that sounds like it needs to happen!

My PC has all the thread messages on one page - it was driving me mad having to click Next page all the time, so I changed my settings.

In my settings currently OP is in green and mine are in purple.

And yes, the suspense is terrible sometimes, like not knowing how a serial finished. That's not as bad as an OP who starts a thread then never comes back to it though

What about the ones who start a thread but don't actually finish their OP?

"My DH is into gerbils. AIBU to think I should have...."

And you're just left guessing!

Tinkerbellisnotafairy Yes! Or the ones that have a whole paragraph as the header then the opening post is "Just that really".

Maybe they are reading and taking on board what you're saying though? They don't owe anybody an explanation of how things turned out.

I can understand you feeling like you want an update (I do too sometimes) but they don't owe us anything really and maybe they're busy or a multitude of other reasons why they may feel they can't or won't reply.

@catslovers97 pretty sure the baby came back after quite a long time away and don’t think there were any more updates after that.

@catslovers97, she came back and posted that her DP had found the thread, then nothing more. I really hope that one worked out ok.

@Witchend - that would be very useful, especially as sometimes there are so many pages of comments and I want to see if my question has been answered it not.

(Also a within 10 minutes edit button; for example to change "it" into "or").

Thanks Celtic and Cool girls - I just kept thinking of her on her own post section missing her DD. I really hope she's doing better now.

You can set posts where an OPs posts are highlighted through a thread, and your own.

Very useful! It's not a default setting, you have to choose it.

Sorry to resurrect this but..

I keep thinking/worrying about a thread, and I wondered if anyone could help me identify it?

Basically OP had concerns about her BIL and her DD. She felt uncomfortable about BIL appearing to target DD for ' alone ' time which involved tickling games extra.

She asked her DH to make sure BIL wasn't left alone with with DD. As an aside, OP stated that BIL was good looking , had a good job etc but had always been single.

Things came to a head when OP left DD with DH and BIL one day, and came home to find BIL alone with half naked DD in the house, and DH in garden, thinking nothing was wrong. Apparently DD had an accident hence lack of clothing.

OP had started to get a really bad feeling about BIL, and that DH was enabling it, and that MIL also was a bit strange. Basically she wanted out of the whole family ( inc DH ), but then realised this would leave BIL, DH & MIL alone with her daughter even more with joint custody, access etc.

I thought it was a really sad dilema, and it kind of troubles me to think about it. I just wonder if it got sorted to the OP satisfaction.

I enjoy threads where the OP has a name change fail and posts “come back and update us” to themselves

As happened yesterday on a job thread!

Sometimes people's real lives are entertaining. You have to remind yourself it's not entertainment though - it's somebody's real life. In fact I'm less likely to believe a thread that has a proper beginning middle and end is actually real, because life and people are not like that. If something has properly affected you emotionally telling a load of people on the internet how it all turned out is the last thing you want to do - unless you've found it helpful and supportive which is sometimes the case.

I agree! Sometimes you can really tell people have put effort into their replies, they are long and helpful and some people even go to the trouble to find links/information from other websites and for the OP to just take all that info and leave (without an obvious reason) does come across ungrateful IMO. I know nobody is forcing people to reply but when they go to that effort it's not unreasonable to expect to hear back

Sometimes in real life nothing comes of a problem. I tend to be more likely to believe a story on here is genuine if it doesn't have constant updates in which more and more dramatic things happen. Sure it's a bit disappointing not to hear the end of the story, but it probably means everything worked out OK in the end and maybe the OP just forgot about letting us know, because it didn't seem that important any more.

You are being unreasonable.

Maybe the OP can't post as much as they'd like to because something called REAL LIFE gets in the way.

Just saying...

Perhaps they return to real life

It's the OP's that obviously spend ages typing out their post and then seem to go AWOL for hours or not bother coming back at all. Often with helpful responses going for pages asking the OP relevant questions in order to be helpful. Yes I know that life interrupts, but if it was that important that you made the effort to post at least hang around for 10 minutes to see if there's a response or wait till there's a better time.

Interesting, I got flamed a couple of years ago for saying much the same thing.