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Original poster

MIL has stolen my shoes!

469 replies

ratherbeshowjumping · 26/09/2018 11:43

This is not a joke...!

Historically I've had a very difficult relationship with Satan my MIL. DH pops his head in once a week on his way home from work but we otherwise have little to do with the witch. We get on OK when we do see her.

Last week I had to work away and she did massively help us out by popping in and checking on the puppy.... and since then I cannot find my very, very naice pair of wellies that my lovely DM treated me to.

Anyway, to cut a long story short, DH went in to say hi yesterday eve and my wellies were there, neat by my backdoor. He immediately said "are they showjumpers wellies?", she laughed and said "no, of course they're not." DH then said "oh showjumper has lost hers, exactly the same."
She then laughed and commented how absentminded I am!!

(I am but that's not the point!)

With risk of sounding awful, I do not think she would be familiar with the brand and even if she was, she would have the money to spend £300+ on a pair of wellies.

WWYD? All suggestions appreciated Grin

OP posts:
Nesssie · 26/09/2018 15:52

She was BU in stealing obviously. There is no question of that.

But you gave an example of her helping you out and still called her a witch and satan in the same paragraph.

spiderlight · 26/09/2018 15:55

Roaring at "My parents' house sitter stole my mum's willies last Xmas...they were not £300 but very enjoyed. "

Dychmygol · 26/09/2018 15:55

I don't know whether to envy that you have luxury wellies or that you have feet small enough for said luxury wellies. All the ones in my size most definitely do not look luxury misses point of satanwelliestealingmil thread

Original poster
ratherbeshowjumping · 26/09/2018 15:57

@catinstrangeplaces

How old was DHs nan? My nan also had it but I was too young to really be aware of the signs and symptoms.
She is 68.
I'm googling signs and symptoms now - in honesty, I wouldn't say she has many.

In honesty, DH and I have had a giggle over it today as it's simply so ridiculous - you either laugh or cry - but I'm certainly not going to laugh about it with her.

I will mention dementia to DH but yes, possiblilty with age but I don't recognise any other symptoms. I do think it's very much her taking a swipe at me.

I'm sorry @useditupandworeitout , I don't really understand your post...!

OP posts:
BewareOfDragons · 26/09/2018 16:03

I think you DH just needs to go over there, pick them up, tell her he's returning them to you (and if he truly thinks it might be memory related, say 'thank you for looking after them for showjumping") and leave again.

Billben · 26/09/2018 16:09

Ive got a pair of Le Chameux’s. I love them so much and use them so much that I even dream about them sometimes (pathetic I know). I would go to my MIL’s, pick them up and walk out with them. Let her call the police if she wants to. But there is no way in hell I’d let her have them.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 26/09/2018 16:10

I am in the quietly nick them back brigade. IF you are sure they are yours. Then she's hardly likely to ask you for them. (By then you've put your name on the soles in sharpie.) Find another puppy sitter that you can trust. Or it could be worse next time.

Billben · 26/09/2018 16:15

I'm still reeling over a £300 pair of wellies! I had to look Le Chameau up. I still can't find anything over £150 though.

www.lechameau.com/gb/women-s-chasseur-leather-lined-boot.html?c=294&pdg=pla-354527669896:kwd-354527669896:cmp-901923050:adg-42507019422:crv-211980524141:pid-5964:dev-t&gclid=Cj0KCQjw3KzdBRDWARIsAIJ8TMR4ZGK1poGzLvZvFKGC5Zjz3m0o4JX-mFI-Lt8P0QhLDZDmwNneX48aArQrEALw_wcB

Look at the leather lined ones

Billben · 26/09/2018 16:19

YABU to spend £300 on wellington boots...

What’s unreasonable about spending £300 on wellies if you can afford it?

longwayoff · 26/09/2018 16:24

Wretched old witch. Take them back, Magic marker them like at school, change locks if she's got a key. Get a dog sitter next time.

3luckystars · 26/09/2018 16:24

I saw this in an episode of Falcon Crest once.

MarianneAgain · 26/09/2018 16:40

Oh what a shame.... Lechameau don't sell them in my size.

Hoping you get yours back asap, OP....

OVienna · 26/09/2018 16:45

Showjumping and Betty my mum would love that someone cared about her and her wellies, thank you for asking. Wink

No, they were never returned. The house sitter denied to the hilt she'd taken them. We think it was inadvertent - the weather was really bad and she slipped them on to go out and do something with the dogs, maybe forgot where she put them. My mum just said to her: Any chance you've seen my boots? I can't find them anywhere. She did get huffy but - she also lost my parents' house keys! This, my mum felt able to properly confront her about. She got really angry with her and deflected: "You don't let me use your washing machine when I stay over!" Yes, because you flooded the basement last time. Needless to say, they will be using someone else now.

The dementia thing with shoes is interesting, that a PP mentioned. I don't know how old this woman is, maybe it's not relevant. But losing keys too? Dunno.

OP - get those boots back! At least you've got sight of the hostages and can break them free.

VanellopeVonSchweetz99 · 26/09/2018 16:46

Disturbing. Confused
WWID? Not much, but my DH would go ape with her.

Tink2007 · 26/09/2018 16:57

Take them back home, stick your name inside them and if she says anything deny all knowledge and say you found yours in the garage/garden/conservatory.

SharpLily · 26/09/2018 17:04

You could have a bit of fun with her. Go over together, sit her down and express concern that she's displaying signs of dementia, using the boots as an example. It would be nice to see what she makes of that.

YearOfYouRemember · 26/09/2018 17:04

When I say your dh going to go and get them?

ApolloandDaphne · 26/09/2018 17:08

My DH used to refer to my DM as the witch or witchey to her face in an entirely light hearted way.

Hope you get your wellies back OP.

Ollivander84 · 26/09/2018 17:10

The theft is the issue, not the price
I have a £300 pair of Ariat boots, they're nearly a decade old and still waterproof and look new when I clean them. Despite massive wear and tear. That's why I paid what I did for them
You could spend £300 on countless pairs of cheaper boots when you add it up over the years

Lalliella · 26/09/2018 17:38

SharpLily Demetria isn’t fun.

OP I hope you get your wellies back. Shameless placemarking for the update Smile

Poloshot · 26/09/2018 17:39

Unbelievable hope you get them back promptly.

Btw should have bought Aigles far superior these days

SharpLily · 26/09/2018 17:48

Demetria isn’t fun.

Presumably you mean dementia and thanks, I'm well aware dementia isn't fun and have dealt with it at the sharp end, but so far there isn't actually any sign that Satan here does have dementia. The OP has said that she has considered this and that the symptoms don't fit.

Ceilingrose · 26/09/2018 18:03

I don't think you should ask your MiL to do you favours eg your puppy if you are also going to call her a witch and Satan. It is hypocritical and entitled.

The shoes are a different matter, obviously.

Lazybonita · 26/09/2018 18:06

That is shit OP, hope you get them back soon. No idea why people think it is reasonable to comment on how much you spent on your wellies, it’s hardly the point. I do not have Le Chameau’s (yet) but if anyone nicked my Dubarry’s there would be hell to pay!

Knittedfairies · 26/09/2018 18:10

It doesn’t matter if the wellies were £300 or £3; MIL took something that doesn’t belong to her. Hope you get them back soon OP.